Bismillah Alhamdulillah was Salaatus Salaam ‘ala RasoolAllah, Sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam
In the past few days for some reason I have recieved an influx of visitors to the website and most people have been, masha’Allah reading the posts on the Fiqh of Fasting (after all it’s Ramadhan). The most popular amongst the posts for some reason (we live in the West) is the one on Masturbation. So acting upon the interests of the visitors to this website I have decided to compile a list of beneficial articles talking about Masturbation, the dangers of this habit and ways one can get rid of this addictive habit, insha’Allah. I know it sounds sick but this need sot addressed, the sooner one gets rid of this habit the better. Our religion is the religion revealed to the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam) form none other than our Creator, Allah and there is no shame in religion. It is better we tackle this issue directly instead of shying away from it. It is sick, but it needs to be addressed.
So the first thing that I found was the Wikipedia entry on the issue of Masturbation, which is almost completely useless except for the part on its risks and the risks of compulsive masturbation, unless one likes to know about the word’s etmology, techniques for males and females, and its history in cultures and religion then one should just stick to the risks of masturbation. I would still reccomend reading these from Wikipedia-
1. Health and Psychological Effects of Masturbation
Besides this there seems to be a plethora of articles from Muslim sources that talk about the issue of masturbation and its islamic ruling, and there are a few sources that talk about how to get rid of this habit.
The Ruling on Masturbation and conditions that may allow for it
Okay, first things first, what is the ruling on Masturbation in Islam, well here it is from IslamQA, there were literally half a dozen websites that just reproduced this same fatwa again and again (and again)-
2. Ruling on Masturbation and ways to cure it (IslamQA)
The ruling seems to be the same across the board for this. If one is having trouble quitting then he should write down the tips and advice and carry it around to remind oneself.
3. Masturbation is sinful and prohibitively disliked according to Hanafi Fiqh
4. Masturbation: A disastrous problem faced by the Youth
I thought this one was a bit comical, atleast the title made me laugh a little bit-
5. Solo Sex (Male and Female Masturbation (alinaam.org)
6. Remedy for Masturbation (alinaam.org)
From Islam Online-
8. How to Give Up Masturbation
9. Masturbation for Both Males and Females: A New Approach (IslamOnline)
From Fiqh mailing lists-
10. Hanafi and Hanbali ruling on Masturbation
Masturbation during Ramadhaan or Fasting
11. Masturbation in Ramadaan (IslamOnline)
12. Masturbation during Ramadaan and issues related to it (Fatwa-Online.com)
13. Invalidation of fast due to Masturbation (IslamQA)
14. Masturbation Breaks the Fast (IslamToday)
Other Non-Muslim and Secular Sources
15. Steps in Overcomming Masturbation
16. Reversing the Effects of Over Masturbation
And Allah Knows Best
May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon the Prophet, Sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, his family and companions. Ameen
Related Post:
Fiqh of Fasting: Masturbation
I begin in the Name of Allah, the most merciful the most gracious.
the reason many people are searching for an answer is because it isnt as clear as it seems. Whenever people read some of theese conflicting views, you cant but get the feeling that the writers are pushing their agenda majorly.
For instance, all the sites and all the views quote the same single ayah, and draw very different flavours of interpretation from it.
One site says it expressely forbids, but they make the assumption that mastubation is sex. whereas sex is short for sexual intercourse whereas there is no intercourse in masturbation. the ayah also refers to that which the right hand possesses.my first impression of this ayah is that it is a detterent and an admonition against adultrery. but using it against masturbation makes the assumption that the ourselves are not part of those whom the right hand possesses . In fact or right hand isnt part of that either.
Dont get the wrong impression. its not that i seek to push my own agenda or that im trying to defend, its simply that i need the truth. really. perhaps the scholars should make ijtihaad on it. rather than mess around with us.
the most concrete view thus far . onwe which dosent make seemingly strange and non-intuitive assumptions is.
that being said, We do have to follow the quraan when it says “Obey Allah ,Obey the Rasool , and the Scholars of your time”. So even though we may not understand there proofs or even not agree with them , we will obey Allah regardless.
And Allah knows best. May Allah guide us toward the straight path.
First of all, I do not think masturbation is a “sickness”; I think it is a quite natural human phenomenon. I think people who propound the notion that masturbation is “sick” are uncomfortable with topics related to sexual matters in general, because while it is a private matter, it is also very natural. I agree with the above respondent that masturbation is not sex. Many young people begin masturbation as a form of exploring their bodies, trying to be more comfortable with who they are and their budding sexuality. Unfortunately too many of them are made to feel ashamed of this self-exploration.
The Wikipedia link provided on the mental and physical effects of masturbation basically only talks about how people used to make claims that it was medically bad, without any real sound medical basis. Modern doctors say that masturbation can be a great stress reliever, and that it generally is not harmful provided it doesn’t affect one’s ability to function in other areas of life. It also is known to relieve menstrual cramps; now we all know that women can’t resort to fasting during their periods and that is the time when their (ahem) desires are strongest.
Masturbation is not a normal human phenomenon, it is not natural at all. It has only recently become a norm and a way of sexual exploration, which has to this time period where anything goes with regards to sexuality - the so called sexual liberation. Please don’t spread these ideas amongst other people for once they begin this path it is very difficult to stop. Do not follow your own desires and the shaytan’s desires of making the haram halal, for he is an open foe to you.
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Assalamualaikum,
I dont know about the ruling becasue there seems to be a difference of opinion on it. But i do know that one feels guilty and sinful after doing it…
Is this enough for it to be classified as sinful?
If anyone has the answer to this please inform me. Thanks
Also, it takes tremendous levels of taqwa to suppress this urge. May ALLAH grant us all such high taqwa. Ameen.
AK man! get a life and stop wanking! Get married if you have to dude! dang!!!
Assalamu Alaikum,
You are so right brother, we mustn’t shy away when it comes to tackling these kind of issues. It used to shock me when I heard things like this, when I was small. But not anymore. yahallah, I’m very sad to have witnessed people who I thought was religious and pious and good children to see them drink alcohol and indulge in mustarbation etc. I have discussed this and they have tried to stop but after sometime, maybe after a week, or month or after seeing some film or somthing they seem to relapse into the old habit. Now I have realised people who get into alcohol, sex, mustarbation must try to get help from someone who can help them get rid of this sins.
Nevertheless this is a great post with valuable collection of articles. I must go through it inshallah. I think this post will be valuable not only to Muslims but even religious people and parents from other religions like Christians, Jewish, Mormans etc.
Stop shagging and get married:)
I dont know why it is that people claim masturbation to be sickening your health, I personally from my own experience have never felt any kind of sickness after doing it. Nor did I regret doing it once it was done. Some times I fealt sad and angry at myself, but that was purely because, I thought that it was 100% forbidden by all schoolars, something that I now realise is far from the truth.
So psychologically and physically I do not believe that masturbation is harmful to your body. In fact, it removed the sexual stress and thoughts that I kept in my mind all day long when not masturbatin!
Allah created us, our bodies, and our needs and desires.
When a person reaches puberty it is a need for your body to replace the semen at some point or another, the semen cannot just stay in there from the day you reach puberty, to the day you get married.
And as far as I know, the bodies respond to the need is to warm our body, and not least make us think of the opposit sex all the time, and this sexual thinking and warming body does not stop, it is strengthen as time goes on. At some point or another one cannot take it any longer, and has to fulfil his sexual desires and what are the alternatives?
I’m a young 15 year old boy and quite frankly, I have a very hard time with my body due to the schoolars who claim that masturbation is forbidden by Islamic laws. I live in the west, where the public is filled with woman, and some ARE attractive!
Now what I HATE so much is the “solutions” given by the Islamic schoolars, “solutions” that are supossed to take you away from masturbation, yet none of them can and do.
The first “solution” is to faist. I personally cannot faist, and I have my reasons for that: If I stop eating my mom will notice it and she will for shure ask me for why it is that I’m not eating, and a sexual conversation is not something that I would like to talk about with my parents. Nor would I want to faist everyday til I get married for that is simply impossible not to mention that I do not want to become thin and skinny.
The second “solution” is to lower your gaze. Well this is not something that you can do anywhere, anytime! When I talk to some one I look at them while talking, I do not look down. Now I DO look away when I’m in public, but that is not possible anytime anywhere.
Also I do not see why this could even be though of as a “solution”. Looking at woman does not strenghten your sexual desire or make your mind think of woman even more and deeper. Woman or not, your mind will still be thinking of woman when it is need for it. So lowering your gaze does not actully help :(
And then there’s always the marriage solution, but due to many reasons I personally cannot marry as a 15 year old boy :)
Other solutions include visiting the mosque, playing sport reading the Quran and such, but none of these actully help you when your not doing it!
I’m not trying to say that masturbation is greate, but it is the only alternative for the youth my friend! I have not masturbated for some weeks now but I know and realise that I cannot continue much further.
Now you being anti-masturbation I suppose, what advice do you have for me and others ? A 15 year old who have never ever had any “wet dreams”, or anything like it. For the last week and days I have bin thinking of woman 24/7, yet managed to not masturbate afraid of it being sinful. Now I’m reading every side of the story while attempting to create my conclusion for wether masturbation is forbidden or not, and I my friend need your respond as much as I need my conclusion.
Asalamu alleykum my friend.
Salam,
Someone more able better respond to the above brother V.
by the way, I think it’s Muharam, the Islamic New year so happy new year to everyone.
Happy new year my friend
Do you not agree with what I have said? IWhy is it that you believe it to be sinful?
Happy new year to all of you..
What you are saying, V, has a certain extent of logic and truth.. But to what extent can we say that this is halal or haram? To make myself clearer, will your conclusion ever fit what religion says?
People, in nature, always like to see life the way they like it - what philosophers call the “paradigm”. You see events from your own perspective and others see it from their own.. To what extent is your vision right/wrong? Is it right to judge your vision? It is your vision and perspective in the end, right?
What I am trying to say here is, sometimes we make conclusions about something after tackling it from many perspectives.. We go through a thorough period of examination and testing, to make sure that our conclusion is right - in our own perspective. We want it to be right because we want it that way.
Sometimes our conclusions do fit, and it is great this way.. However, there are many times that our perception and emotions play against us, mislead us. You feel that this person is good, but he turns out to be a master criminal. We see her as an insecure girl who does this and that, but she turns out to be an angel.. Our carnal self is a creature that loves sins.. It is our role to direct it to the right path..
Your body has been programmed this way. Whenever you are stressed or the desire level increases in your body, visions emerge that command you to masturbate. You begin to think about it, even get tired of it. You think that it’s normal and that it’s your body trying to get rid of the excess semen to make new one, right? Well, to tell you the truth, that is the way of Satan trying to get in. He will always try to find a way - if not a door, then it’s a window. This is addiction.
To turn away from it, you have to make sure that you want to. This is the first step to weaning yourself from this pernicious habit. It is with courage of conviction and deep faith in Allah that you can get rid of it. My advice, go now and pray.. Tell Allah that you want to stop it no matter what. You are addicted, so as myself, and you want to stop it. Conceive yourself stopping it, and how life would be. Pray and be committed to praying and zhikr.
It is true that with globalization and openness, you get to see all sorts of men and women and talk to them face to face, and might like some of them and get attracted to others. That’s true. What you can do, is to try to be as objective as possible; don’t let your mind soar.. Pull it down to Earth and don’t open any satanic doors, if you know what I mean.
As for your body, the bodily fluids are excreted from the body without your intention. When you exercise, do you tell your body to sweat or not? Can you command it? Sweat glands release sweat as part of the natural homeostatic process, even if you don’t want to. The same occurs with “wet dreams”.. This is the normal way of the body getting rid of its excess fluids. You might not have it some days, but in other days you might. Masturbation is not the healthy or correct way.
As for fasting, it is your own life. Why do you fast? Well the main purpose is to please God along with other reasons. It has been scientifically proven that fasting decreases the desires of the carnal self and lets you focus more on your life - really. It is with a full stomach that desires build, and that’s why fasting is a remedy. It’s your choice to fast after all, and if your parents tell you not to, then tell them it’s for God and it’s your way of thanking him and becoming more faithful. You don’t have to fast everyday, maybe Mondays and Thursdays? You pick the day(s) and make it a habit.
Whenever you get the desire, go read a page of the Quran, or two - as many as you wish. You might want to pray two rak’at and ask for help. You might also leave the house for a few minutes and get some fresh air. Might go play some basketball with some friends or run a lap around the neighborhood. Might go sit with family and talk to forget about it. There are tons of things you can do - you choose and you do. It’s your own perception.
Consider yourself a drug addict - God forbid, but take it as an example. You know it’s wrong, but you still take the drug.. Why? Because your body wants to.. You want to. If everyone agrees on taking them, then we would have never heard of people who became cleaner and started a new fresh start, right? Therefore, choose some good friends who you feel will get your mind off matters like this. Try to be close to the mosque (if you can).. Study well and expand your knowledge by reading useful things. Get your mind and vision off bad movies, websites and magazines and focus on the good ones.
One good advice is to keep a journal of your progress. Right now, you can write an introduction to your new life. Talk about the bad effects and the ugliness of this habit, so that every time your mind wants to think of it, all you do is read the journal and remember the bad effects it has on you. Keep track of what you do and how you feel. It’s for you only and no one has to read it. This way, you’ll hopefully get rid of it, inshAllah.
Soon, your body will be programmed the way you like, all with Allah’s help.
I don’t know if I’m ever going to open this site again. If I ever do, hopefully, I hope to hear the good news. Remember, it’s all with a first step, and yours is a serious repentance. I’m like you, and you and I are two of hundreds? Thousands? Millions? So repent now with a serious heart and tell us the good news. ;)
The ideas expressed here are of my own perception of looking at things. If they offend anyone/ misinterpret facts or else, I apologize. May Allah guide us to the right path.
Yours,
Someone..
Thanks for the information.
you guys dont know how hard it is to obstrain from it..it makes you feel guilty but you cant stop your self and you’d blame masturbation for a bad day or a bad luck with any thing..its becomming frustrating..as a student stress is like an everyday thing..and with masturbation the more you pull away from it the more you go towords it..its an addiction..and it sucks..i wish i never had this habit..and people in america feel its a good thing..its so hard to still stand firm on ur belief and keep away..my life is becomming so depressing that all i pray for is death.. because of this habit i dont even know if i am going to go to hell or heaven..studies are so stressful..i dont think future life is gonna be any easier..i have become sucha pessimist..some times i feel Allah tala hates me..:(
V and ST here is article i found to help
its the 5th post down
http://uiforum.uaeforum.org/showthread.php?t=3889
I agree 100% with ST. Masterbation has caused me a lot of trouble and stress but I can’t get rid of the habit. I’ve been musterbating for more than 5 years now. Because of Musterbating I have lost hair, I have become bald in my head and it’s very stressesful because I’m still in my early twenties and all my friends have nice hair. I think about my hair every time and I get very depressed, I hate my self becuz of this. Even my facial and body hair has become very thick, thicker than my dads or uncles. This has my life a misery.
From the first time I did it I regreted and tried to get away from if. I thought it will be the last time. but time and again I’ve failed and done it again. Sometimes many times a day. Sometimes I was able to abstain from it for 2 weeks, sometimes 2 months, somtimes 6-7 months but again I’ve sucummbed to it. The urge and sensation to musterbate is unberable sometimes esp. if I accidentely or otherwise happen to see rousy images or scenes maybe in a TV Ad. or a girls half bare breat in a tight packed bus. I don’t want to do it again. But I have a feeling I will fail again and again. What can I do. Yallah please help guys like me… :(
Assalamu-Alikum Brother in Islam:
After reading the most of the articles, I came to the conclusion that some brothers are trying to use things in their own way. I want to share an experience with you and after that I would like to listen from you.
I was myself involved in this bad act for almost 7 years, but now i did not remember the day when I last time have done it which means it is now almost 10 years I have left this. If sin would not have been tasty then we Adam (asw) have been removed from teh heaven and sent to earth. Sin or unlawful things are attractive because saitan tries to take us away from the right path. this is the examination for which we have been choosen by our creator. It is not very difficult to get rid of this habit because people have practised this evil practise and have got rid of it.
For those, who says that it is not scientifically harmful, I want to tell those people it is teh taste of this evil practise which makes them not to recognize the bad effect fo this practise. I have a friend whose eye sight got very weak when he was 16. He talked to many doctors, but of not use. At last he went to a Hakim and told him abuot this practise. Hakim told him not to do this adn gave him a medicine and Alhamdullilah in a very short span of time his eye sight was recovered.
One method which I used for stopping this evil practise is whenever you get an idea of this thing, go to the bathroom and make Wadoo with cold water. Inshallah it will help a lot.
Assalamu Alaikum,
Still the fact about masturbation (according to religion or culture) remains ambigous. 50 percent of the websites I visited said that it’s good for one’s health while the remaining percentage went on the contrary. Pls I need the factual fact about it!
fuck those mulaaas…do a lot of masturbating and enjoy …..girlzzzz..love america..love girlzzzz..
masturbating makes me feel alot sexier…. i have got a lot of posters in my bathroom of my favorite girlzz naked….and showing their wet pussies..it’s great ..love it..