Bismillah Alhamdulillah was Salaatus Salaam ‘ala RasoolAllah, Sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam
In the past few days for some reason I have recieved an influx of visitors to the website and most people have been, masha’Allah reading the posts on the Fiqh of Fasting (after all it’s Ramadhan). The most popular amongst the posts for some reason (we live in the West) is the one on Masturbation. So acting upon the interests of the visitors to this website I have decided to compile a list of beneficial articles talking about Masturbation, the dangers of this habit and ways one can get rid of this addictive habit, insha’Allah. I know it sounds sick but this need sot addressed, the sooner one gets rid of this habit the better. Our religion is the religion revealed to the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam) form none other than our Creator, Allah and there is no shame in religion. It is better we tackle this issue directly instead of shying away from it. It is sick, but it needs to be addressed.
So the first thing that I found was the Wikipedia entry on the issue of Masturbation, which is almost completely useless except for the part on its risks and the risks of compulsive masturbation, unless one likes to know about the word’s etmology, techniques for males and females, and its history in cultures and religion then one should just stick to the risks of masturbation. I would still reccomend reading these from Wikipedia-
1. Health and Psychological Effects of Masturbation
Besides this there seems to be a plethora of articles from Muslim sources that talk about the issue of masturbation and its islamic ruling, and there are a few sources that talk about how to get rid of this habit.
The Ruling on Masturbation and conditions that may allow for it
Okay, first things first, what is the ruling on Masturbation in Islam, well here it is from IslamQA, there were literally half a dozen websites that just reproduced this same fatwa again and again (and again)-
2. Ruling on Masturbation and ways to cure it (IslamQA)
The ruling seems to be the same across the board for this. If one is having trouble quitting then he should write down the tips and advice and carry it around to remind oneself.
3. Masturbation is sinful and prohibitively disliked according to Hanafi Fiqh
4. Masturbation: A disastrous problem faced by the Youth
I thought this one was a bit comical, atleast the title made me laugh a little bit-
5. Solo Sex (Male and Female Masturbation (alinaam.org)
6. Remedy for Masturbation (alinaam.org)
From Islam Online-
8. How to Give Up Masturbation
9. Masturbation for Both Males and Females: A New Approach (IslamOnline)
From Fiqh mailing lists-
10. Hanafi and Hanbali ruling on Masturbation
Masturbation during Ramadhaan or Fasting
11. Masturbation in Ramadaan (IslamOnline)
12. Masturbation during Ramadaan and issues related to it (Fatwa-Online.com)
13. Invalidation of fast due to Masturbation (IslamQA)
14. Masturbation Breaks the Fast (IslamToday)
Other Non-Muslim and Secular Sources
15. Steps in Overcomming Masturbation
16. Reversing the Effects of Over Masturbation
And Allah Knows Best
May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon the Prophet, Sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, his family and companions. Ameen
Related Post:
Fiqh of Fasting: Masturbation
I begin in the Name of Allah, the most merciful the most gracious.
the reason many people are searching for an answer is because it isnt as clear as it seems. Whenever people read some of theese conflicting views, you cant but get the feeling that the writers are pushing their agenda majorly.
For instance, all the sites and all the views quote the same single ayah, and draw very different flavours of interpretation from it.
One site says it expressely forbids, but they make the assumption that mastubation is sex. whereas sex is short for sexual intercourse whereas there is no intercourse in masturbation. the ayah also refers to that which the right hand possesses.my first impression of this ayah is that it is a detterent and an admonition against adultrery. but using it against masturbation makes the assumption that the ourselves are not part of those whom the right hand possesses . In fact or right hand isnt part of that either.
Dont get the wrong impression. its not that i seek to push my own agenda or that im trying to defend, its simply that i need the truth. really. perhaps the scholars should make ijtihaad on it. rather than mess around with us.
the most concrete view thus far . onwe which dosent make seemingly strange and non-intuitive assumptions is.
that being said, We do have to follow the quraan when it says “Obey Allah ,Obey the Rasool , and the Scholars of your time”. So even though we may not understand there proofs or even not agree with them , we will obey Allah regardless.
And Allah knows best. May Allah guide us toward the straight path.
First of all, I do not think masturbation is a “sickness”; I think it is a quite natural human phenomenon. I think people who propound the notion that masturbation is “sick” are uncomfortable with topics related to sexual matters in general, because while it is a private matter, it is also very natural. I agree with the above respondent that masturbation is not sex. Many young people begin masturbation as a form of exploring their bodies, trying to be more comfortable with who they are and their budding sexuality. Unfortunately too many of them are made to feel ashamed of this self-exploration.
The Wikipedia link provided on the mental and physical effects of masturbation basically only talks about how people used to make claims that it was medically bad, without any real sound medical basis. Modern doctors say that masturbation can be a great stress reliever, and that it generally is not harmful provided it doesn’t affect one’s ability to function in other areas of life. It also is known to relieve menstrual cramps; now we all know that women can’t resort to fasting during their periods and that is the time when their (ahem) desires are strongest.
Masturbation is not a normal human phenomenon, it is not natural at all. It has only recently become a norm and a way of sexual exploration, which has to this time period where anything goes with regards to sexuality – the so called sexual liberation. Please don’t spread these ideas amongst other people for once they begin this path it is very difficult to stop. Do not follow your own desires and the shaytan’s desires of making the haram halal, for he is an open foe to you.
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Assalamualaikum,
I dont know about the ruling becasue there seems to be a difference of opinion on it. But i do know that one feels guilty and sinful after doing it…
Is this enough for it to be classified as sinful?
If anyone has the answer to this please inform me. Thanks
Also, it takes tremendous levels of taqwa to suppress this urge. May ALLAH grant us all such high taqwa. Ameen.
AK man! get a life and stop wanking! Get married if you have to dude! dang!!!
Assalamu Alaikum,
You are so right brother, we mustn’t shy away when it comes to tackling these kind of issues. It used to shock me when I heard things like this, when I was small. But not anymore. yahallah, I’m very sad to have witnessed people who I thought was religious and pious and good children to see them drink alcohol and indulge in mustarbation etc. I have discussed this and they have tried to stop but after sometime, maybe after a week, or month or after seeing some film or somthing they seem to relapse into the old habit. Now I have realised people who get into alcohol, sex, mustarbation must try to get help from someone who can help them get rid of this sins.
Nevertheless this is a great post with valuable collection of articles. I must go through it inshallah. I think this post will be valuable not only to Muslims but even religious people and parents from other religions like Christians, Jewish, Mormans etc.
Stop shagging and get married:)
I dont know why it is that people claim masturbation to be sickening your health, I personally from my own experience have never felt any kind of sickness after doing it. Nor did I regret doing it once it was done. Some times I fealt sad and angry at myself, but that was purely because, I thought that it was 100% forbidden by all schoolars, something that I now realise is far from the truth.
So psychologically and physically I do not believe that masturbation is harmful to your body. In fact, it removed the sexual stress and thoughts that I kept in my mind all day long when not masturbatin!
Allah created us, our bodies, and our needs and desires.
When a person reaches puberty it is a need for your body to replace the semen at some point or another, the semen cannot just stay in there from the day you reach puberty, to the day you get married.
And as far as I know, the bodies respond to the need is to warm our body, and not least make us think of the opposit sex all the time, and this sexual thinking and warming body does not stop, it is strengthen as time goes on. At some point or another one cannot take it any longer, and has to fulfil his sexual desires and what are the alternatives?
I’m a young 15 year old boy and quite frankly, I have a very hard time with my body due to the schoolars who claim that masturbation is forbidden by Islamic laws. I live in the west, where the public is filled with woman, and some ARE attractive!
Now what I HATE so much is the “solutions” given by the Islamic schoolars, “solutions” that are supossed to take you away from masturbation, yet none of them can and do.
The first “solution” is to faist. I personally cannot faist, and I have my reasons for that: If I stop eating my mom will notice it and she will for shure ask me for why it is that I’m not eating, and a sexual conversation is not something that I would like to talk about with my parents. Nor would I want to faist everyday til I get married for that is simply impossible not to mention that I do not want to become thin and skinny.
The second “solution” is to lower your gaze. Well this is not something that you can do anywhere, anytime! When I talk to some one I look at them while talking, I do not look down. Now I DO look away when I’m in public, but that is not possible anytime anywhere.
Also I do not see why this could even be though of as a “solution”. Looking at woman does not strenghten your sexual desire or make your mind think of woman even more and deeper. Woman or not, your mind will still be thinking of woman when it is need for it. So lowering your gaze does not actully help :(
And then there’s always the marriage solution, but due to many reasons I personally cannot marry as a 15 year old boy :)
Other solutions include visiting the mosque, playing sport reading the Quran and such, but none of these actully help you when your not doing it!
I’m not trying to say that masturbation is greate, but it is the only alternative for the youth my friend! I have not masturbated for some weeks now but I know and realise that I cannot continue much further.
Now you being anti-masturbation I suppose, what advice do you have for me and others ? A 15 year old who have never ever had any “wet dreams”, or anything like it. For the last week and days I have bin thinking of woman 24/7, yet managed to not masturbate afraid of it being sinful. Now I’m reading every side of the story while attempting to create my conclusion for wether masturbation is forbidden or not, and I my friend need your respond as much as I need my conclusion.
Asalamu alleykum my friend.
Salam,
Someone more able better respond to the above brother V.
by the way, I think it’s Muharam, the Islamic New year so happy new year to everyone.
Happy new year my friend
Do you not agree with what I have said? IWhy is it that you believe it to be sinful?
Happy new year to all of you..
What you are saying, V, has a certain extent of logic and truth.. But to what extent can we say that this is halal or haram? To make myself clearer, will your conclusion ever fit what religion says?
People, in nature, always like to see life the way they like it – what philosophers call the “paradigm”. You see events from your own perspective and others see it from their own.. To what extent is your vision right/wrong? Is it right to judge your vision? It is your vision and perspective in the end, right?
What I am trying to say here is, sometimes we make conclusions about something after tackling it from many perspectives.. We go through a thorough period of examination and testing, to make sure that our conclusion is right – in our own perspective. We want it to be right because we want it that way.
Sometimes our conclusions do fit, and it is great this way.. However, there are many times that our perception and emotions play against us, mislead us. You feel that this person is good, but he turns out to be a master criminal. We see her as an insecure girl who does this and that, but she turns out to be an angel.. Our carnal self is a creature that loves sins.. It is our role to direct it to the right path..
Your body has been programmed this way. Whenever you are stressed or the desire level increases in your body, visions emerge that command you to masturbate. You begin to think about it, even get tired of it. You think that it’s normal and that it’s your body trying to get rid of the excess semen to make new one, right? Well, to tell you the truth, that is the way of Satan trying to get in. He will always try to find a way – if not a door, then it’s a window. This is addiction.
To turn away from it, you have to make sure that you want to. This is the first step to weaning yourself from this pernicious habit. It is with courage of conviction and deep faith in Allah that you can get rid of it. My advice, go now and pray.. Tell Allah that you want to stop it no matter what. You are addicted, so as myself, and you want to stop it. Conceive yourself stopping it, and how life would be. Pray and be committed to praying and zhikr.
It is true that with globalization and openness, you get to see all sorts of men and women and talk to them face to face, and might like some of them and get attracted to others. That’s true. What you can do, is to try to be as objective as possible; don’t let your mind soar.. Pull it down to Earth and don’t open any satanic doors, if you know what I mean.
As for your body, the bodily fluids are excreted from the body without your intention. When you exercise, do you tell your body to sweat or not? Can you command it? Sweat glands release sweat as part of the natural homeostatic process, even if you don’t want to. The same occurs with “wet dreams”.. This is the normal way of the body getting rid of its excess fluids. You might not have it some days, but in other days you might. Masturbation is not the healthy or correct way.
As for fasting, it is your own life. Why do you fast? Well the main purpose is to please God along with other reasons. It has been scientifically proven that fasting decreases the desires of the carnal self and lets you focus more on your life – really. It is with a full stomach that desires build, and that’s why fasting is a remedy. It’s your choice to fast after all, and if your parents tell you not to, then tell them it’s for God and it’s your way of thanking him and becoming more faithful. You don’t have to fast everyday, maybe Mondays and Thursdays? You pick the day(s) and make it a habit.
Whenever you get the desire, go read a page of the Quran, or two – as many as you wish. You might want to pray two rak’at and ask for help. You might also leave the house for a few minutes and get some fresh air. Might go play some basketball with some friends or run a lap around the neighborhood. Might go sit with family and talk to forget about it. There are tons of things you can do – you choose and you do. It’s your own perception.
Consider yourself a drug addict – God forbid, but take it as an example. You know it’s wrong, but you still take the drug.. Why? Because your body wants to.. You want to. If everyone agrees on taking them, then we would have never heard of people who became cleaner and started a new fresh start, right? Therefore, choose some good friends who you feel will get your mind off matters like this. Try to be close to the mosque (if you can).. Study well and expand your knowledge by reading useful things. Get your mind and vision off bad movies, websites and magazines and focus on the good ones.
One good advice is to keep a journal of your progress. Right now, you can write an introduction to your new life. Talk about the bad effects and the ugliness of this habit, so that every time your mind wants to think of it, all you do is read the journal and remember the bad effects it has on you. Keep track of what you do and how you feel. It’s for you only and no one has to read it. This way, you’ll hopefully get rid of it, inshAllah.
Soon, your body will be programmed the way you like, all with Allah’s help.
I don’t know if I’m ever going to open this site again. If I ever do, hopefully, I hope to hear the good news. Remember, it’s all with a first step, and yours is a serious repentance. I’m like you, and you and I are two of hundreds? Thousands? Millions? So repent now with a serious heart and tell us the good news. ;)
The ideas expressed here are of my own perception of looking at things. If they offend anyone/ misinterpret facts or else, I apologize. May Allah guide us to the right path.
Yours,
Someone..
Thanks for the information.
you guys dont know how hard it is to obstrain from it..it makes you feel guilty but you cant stop your self and you’d blame masturbation for a bad day or a bad luck with any thing..its becomming frustrating..as a student stress is like an everyday thing..and with masturbation the more you pull away from it the more you go towords it..its an addiction..and it sucks..i wish i never had this habit..and people in america feel its a good thing..its so hard to still stand firm on ur belief and keep away..my life is becomming so depressing that all i pray for is death.. because of this habit i dont even know if i am going to go to hell or heaven..studies are so stressful..i dont think future life is gonna be any easier..i have become sucha pessimist..some times i feel Allah tala hates me..:(
V and ST here is article i found to help
its the 5th post down
http://uiforum.uaeforum.org/showthread.php?t=3889
I agree 100% with ST. Masterbation has caused me a lot of trouble and stress but I can’t get rid of the habit. I’ve been musterbating for more than 5 years now. Because of Musterbating I have lost hair, I have become bald in my head and it’s very stressesful because I’m still in my early twenties and all my friends have nice hair. I think about my hair every time and I get very depressed, I hate my self becuz of this. Even my facial and body hair has become very thick, thicker than my dads or uncles. This has my life a misery.
From the first time I did it I regreted and tried to get away from if. I thought it will be the last time. but time and again I’ve failed and done it again. Sometimes many times a day. Sometimes I was able to abstain from it for 2 weeks, sometimes 2 months, somtimes 6-7 months but again I’ve sucummbed to it. The urge and sensation to musterbate is unberable sometimes esp. if I accidentely or otherwise happen to see rousy images or scenes maybe in a TV Ad. or a girls half bare breat in a tight packed bus. I don’t want to do it again. But I have a feeling I will fail again and again. What can I do. Yallah please help guys like me… :(
Assalamu-Alikum Brother in Islam:
After reading the most of the articles, I came to the conclusion that some brothers are trying to use things in their own way. I want to share an experience with you and after that I would like to listen from you.
I was myself involved in this bad act for almost 7 years, but now i did not remember the day when I last time have done it which means it is now almost 10 years I have left this. If sin would not have been tasty then we Adam (asw) have been removed from teh heaven and sent to earth. Sin or unlawful things are attractive because saitan tries to take us away from the right path. this is the examination for which we have been choosen by our creator. It is not very difficult to get rid of this habit because people have practised this evil practise and have got rid of it.
For those, who says that it is not scientifically harmful, I want to tell those people it is teh taste of this evil practise which makes them not to recognize the bad effect fo this practise. I have a friend whose eye sight got very weak when he was 16. He talked to many doctors, but of not use. At last he went to a Hakim and told him abuot this practise. Hakim told him not to do this adn gave him a medicine and Alhamdullilah in a very short span of time his eye sight was recovered.
One method which I used for stopping this evil practise is whenever you get an idea of this thing, go to the bathroom and make Wadoo with cold water. Inshallah it will help a lot.
asalamu alykum
first of all if all of us are being honest with our selves if we think clearly about this issue we know for certain that it is haram with out hearing anything from the qur’an and sunnah why because of how it makes you feel afterwards, you feel extreme guilt afterwards upon committing this act. i remember i use to feel so guilty eventhough i was never told it is haram i knew it was haram because of the fitra, the way allah created me, so some advice first of all don’t let shaytan deceive you into making ways out for yourselves atleast admit it to your self that it is haram, second of all know that ghusl is a must after doing this act which a lot of ppl dont know thirdly don’t give up, this is what shaytan wants you to do thats the worst thing you can because only disbelievers give up hope in allah, fourthly do not swear in the name of allah that you will never go back to this act, this is a major sin and you will make things worse after breaking this promise fifthly try fasting mondays and thursdays and try hiding it from ppl because this will increase your sincerety and will make you determined and you will avoid of being asked why your fasting, sixthly and this is a repeat of a previous step do not give up this is important shaytan destroys us by making it seem we have done the worst act so do not give up .
also beware of crazy thoughts like the one V was saying speaking about allah without knowledge don’t voice your opinion when it comes to issue regarding al islam, yes its hard living in the west as a youth and there are distractions but that doesn’t give us the right to say what we want in terms of religious rulings so BEWARE OF USING YOUR INTELLECT when it comes to al islam.
lastly seek the help of allah and turn to him make continues dua to allah alone, seek his help alone , repent to him and the steps for repentence are you stop the sin, you regret it ,and you make the intention to never go back to it, don’t try to fool any and be sincere to yourself and to allah make the firm intention to NEVER go back to it , if you do go back to it don’t give up ,the key is that you make the firm intention to never return to it if you do than repent again you are human beings and you have short comings but the key is be sincere and determined make the firm intention of quitting and if it happens that you slip again than repent to allah do not give up and give in to shaytan the best time is the last third of the night around 3 or 4 or 5 am and turn to allah alone and seek his help and insha allah you will come out victorious
P.S. REMEMBER AND THINK ABOUT HOOR UL AYN, THE WOMEN OF JANNAH and insha allah the women of this life will seem insignificant to you
here is a link to it an article and an audio the idea is excellent
http://kalamullah.com/brothers.html
also listen to tracks 10 and 11 about paradise on the link below by anwar awlaki its excellent and insha allah will motivate you
http://islambase.co.uk/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=15&Itemid=181
and allah knows best
Assalamu Alaikum,
Still the fact about masturbation (according to religion or culture) remains ambigous. 50 percent of the websites I visited said that it’s good for one’s health while the remaining percentage went on the contrary. Pls I need the factual fact about it!
fuck those mulaaas…do a lot of masturbating and enjoy …..girlzzzz..love america..love girlzzzz..
masturbating makes me feel alot sexier…. i have got a lot of posters in my bathroom of my favorite girlzz naked….and showing their wet pussies..it’s great ..love it..
It is indeed a great, great dilemma that an abundance of youths going through in this day and age and, in fact, I myself, a victim.
With all the solutions that are mentioned above and rest not specified, I tried and still at regret position. And finally, I concluded, the very best way is to knot a tie and nothing.
May Allah give us strength to overcome with this hazardous activity,
Assalaam-o-alaikum.
Please people, stop spreading rumours and strange ideas. Being a doctor myself, I know for sure that masturbation is not harmful, not in a physical way nor in a psychological one. Would it be like this, all people in the western countries would have bald heads or would be mentally retarded.
I agree, that we should follow what the qur’an says, and what hadees say in general. And to a certain extent what the scholars say.
The most important thing is that you as a genuine practising Muslim don’t forget your own judgment. Just for once ask yourself why all these scholars have different views on this topic? Because they are not sure about this themselves.
For me what’s written in the qur’an is what counts. And in clear words it states: Don’t have intercourse outside your marriage and if you have slave girls, then go for it as well. Now these scholars want to sell us, that masturbating is haram and a slave girl, you are not legally married to is halal??? What kind of logic is this? Ok, I know. You might argue that logic is nothing to be found in religion. But for me it is, at least in terms of the stepping of the severeness of a sin, found everywhere in islam.
And the grade of punishment will result from the severeness of your sin.
According to this masturbation will come somewhere between having sex with your wife and committing adultery. Forget about the slave girl here (btw. would love to be born in those days and being rich…).
So for the scholars of ancient times it is haram to masturbate because it is not mentioned in this ayah or anywhere else.
What kind of logic is this again? Correct me if I’m wrong, but imagine all the things that would be forbidden, because they are not mentioned in the qur’an. Would it be forbidden to drink coffee or tee because it is caffeine or similar stuff in there that can cause addiction? Same could be said about computer games and a lot of other things as well then, isn’t it?
No doubt: Scholars were and are persons to be respected and they are for sure far better human beings and muslims, than the biggest majority of the rest of us. But, they are human beings and nowhere near our beloved prophet SAW. And therefore they can be wrong as well. And it is a known fact, that whenever it comes to sexuality you always get the feeling, they say or ‘assume’ what would please the masses and take the line of the least resistance. And most of the sayings on these topics we refer to are done by scholars who lived in a time extraordinary strict and full of taboos and far from the current times, where speaking out or discussing them has become a relatively common thing. It doesn’t bear contemplating what would have happened if one of them would have clearly stated it would be permissible in those times or even nowadays, about something declared a big sin and as a disgusting abnormity…
If you feel guilty after doing it, you do because you were taught it is wrong and something unnatural. Btw. I read some of the scholars say if your wife masturbates you or vice versa it is permissible, but guess what happens if you do it on your own…
It is a scientific truth that masturbation eases tension and helps you from being stuck in sexual thoughts and gives you relieve from them. An effect everyone knows out of personal experience even if not admitting in the open.
Suggestions as reading qur’an or showering cold doesn’t help much and is to be seen as nothing more than a placebo. Maybe this is the reason why it works with some people. I personally could never get rid of these thoughts or out of this certain state by following these suggestions. To be honest I would feel more uncomfotable and guilty having these thoughts while praying or reading qur’an.
I believe and I have read somewhere that god doesn’t want the mu’meneen to suffer, so it should be permissible to masturbate, if you have no other way to get rid of this very basic urge.
And medically or mechanically spoken, it is nothing else than to have intercourse, therefore it definitely does not harm you in any way. At least I never heard of any casualties in this field.
I would like to add it doesn’t make anyone blind as well. Even if in one case out of ten million a passionate masturbator would become blind that would definitely be called a coincidence not a result of the masturbation. I know that as a fact being specialized in that field… ;)
As for the end I would like to say that this is my personal opinion based on science, personal research and a little bit of common sense and analysis.
But everyone should decide on his own and Allah knows best.
It’s not hard to quit, you think it’s hard but it ain’t, just think why you wanna quit, and the only reason is for HIM. I leaved this bad habit for a while now. I’ve heard when I was on vacation in a Islamic country that everytime you do it, it’s like losing a drop of blood, that’s why you shouldn’t do it. DO MARRY ;)
Like the Dr. A above, I was brought up to rely on science, and so it is laughable to read people thinking masturbation leads to balding and blindness? Please, do not contribute to the notion that Islam is a backward religion. It is embarassing and frustrating for an educated Muslim to hear such ideas being propagated in the name of Islam.
However, it does not make masturbation encouraged (western idea).
Of all the opinions above, the ruling I feel most sympathetic towards is the opinion held by the Hanafi scholars. Try to abstain (by fasting or marriage). Remember, Allah and Prophet knows best. (“It may be that you like something that is not good for you” & “And who is more astray than one who follow his own lusts, without guidance from Allah: AL Qasas, 50″<< Quranic verses). But, should you lapse, that is no reason to give up trying to abstain and resort to hating yourself. Allah rewards effort as well, not just results. SO, keep trying.
Undoubtably, it will be hard to quit. So, be realistic, not idealistic. Aim to first maybe reduce your frequency. Spend some time thinking about what usually triggers your need to masturbate. Then design ways to avoid them. Develop a stronger bond with Allah by increasing ibadah to Him. Even if it might be embarassing, you can even approach an elder Muslim in your area (or even on the net) to counsel and help you through your problems.
As with everything in Islam, I think, it is best to take the middle path. To condemn masturbating to be haram, is to condemn many young Muslims struggling (in the West and other places), yet, to say it is halal, is to encourage the relieving of sexual desires outside the recommended way of marriage (which is what Islam encourages). Hence, for me at least, it is best to side with caution.
Wallahualam, Allah knows best.
salam oo alaykom.
ramathan kareem to all my brothers and sisters
i live in the west and in the past few months i have started masturbating regularly. yes i do feel guilty about it despite not knowing for sure if it is haram or not. one thing i have to say is though, when i do go through a period without masturbating, i end up having wet dreams, often including females whom i am friends with which can be disturbing. my question is, those who say its definitely haram, how are wet dreams ok then?
masturbation is a parasite.. it will only ask for more unless u stop giving any.
i saw animals masturbate and make thinks.. did Allah created me as low as these animals? NO! Allah gave me intelligence unlike those animals. I cud think I cud make decisions and I can stop masturbating! I am more than just an animal.
Frens please pray for me. May Allah give me the courage and strength to stop feeding this parasite and let it die once and forever.
Assalamu ‘alaykum..
At least a few brothers here dare to oppose their Hawaa (desires) :)
I felt I should write for “Dr” here. Firstly I myself am in this field (Medicine). Doc, Allopathic docs, says its not harmful.. But experience says here just the opposite. If i have not mistaken, after months of long “research” though its not a right word to use, I figured it out that its the allopathic docs alone who deem it harmless (correct me if i’m wrong). Just cuz they didn’t find any1 affected. Really i gotta laugh at this. I always keep myself from blind following – at least these kuffaar docs. I’ve seen n heard ppl speak out about themselves: their ill effects after doing this act and that alone is sufficient.
Secondly, Shar’an (acc to islamic jurisprudence) a single ayah from the Quraan keeps me from this. I was able to make excuses and chuck every proof saying its not relevant and its not this that…. etc.. except for this one:
“And (The believers are) those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts from illegal sexual acts).
Except from their wives or (the women slaves) whom their right hands possess – for (then) they are not blameworthy.”
al-Qur’aan 70:29-30
Allah forbade every kind of way to satisfy your sexual desires and He, the Ordainer of Sharee’ah, excluded from it only two things: Wives and the slaves (its not those which are found in our times, usually :)). Now no one has the chance to say, if this is permissible then this too should, as the “Dr” said.. No its Allah who ordains, not us: especially when He has explicitly stated all sexual satisfactions Haraam: except two.
Thridly, you find half a bulk of websites saying its haraam? I thought majority isn’t a proof for something being true! At least after reading this verse:
“And if you obey most of those on the earth, they will mislead you far away from Allâh’s path. They follow nothing but conjectures, and they do nothing but lie.”
al-Qur’aan 6:116
All the proofs they have is to feign that its harmless.
Lastly, before I waste more time on this, Just because getting out of this, after gettin in is very very difficult, Illa ‘Alla al-Khaashi’een :) {except for the true believers in Allâh – those who obey Allâh with full submission, fear much from His punishment, and believe in His Promise (Paradise) and in His Warnings (Hell)} It never ever means that its permissible. Then drugs would be the first thing to be classed as allowed!!
Some of the salaf said: “If 2 affairs were dubious to u and u don’t know which is correct then oppose that which is near to your Hawaa’.”
Taken from a lecture of Dr. Saleh as-Saleh Rahimahullah, entitled “lowly desires”, and I’d want those who wanaa chuck this disgracing act to listen to it once, atleast.
Your bro in Islam,
Abu Sa’eed
Assalamu ‘alaykum..
At least a few brothers here dare to oppose their Hawaa (desires) :)
I felt I should write for “Dr” here. Firstly I myself am in this field (Medicine). Doc, Allopathic docs, says its not harmful.. But experience says here just the opposite. If i have not mistaken, after months of long “research” though its not a right word to use, I figured it out that its the allopathic docs alone who deem it harmless (correct me if i’m wrong). Just cuz they didn’t find any1 affected. Really i gotta laugh at this. I always keep myself from blind following – at least these kuffaar docs. I’ve seen n heard ppl speak out about themselves: their ill effects after doing this act and that alone is sufficient.
Secondly, Shar’an (acc to islamic jurisprudence) a single ayah from the Quraan keeps me from this. I was able to make excuses and chuck every proof saying its not relevant and its not this that…. etc.. except for this one:
“And (The believers are) those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts from illegal sexual acts).
Except from their wives or (the women slaves) whom their right hands possess – for (then) they are not blameworthy.”
al-Qur’aan 70:29-30
Allah forbade every kind of way to satisfy your sexual desires and He, the Ordainer of Sharee’ah, excluded from it only two things: Wives and the slaves (its not those which are found in our times, usually :)). Now no one has the chance to say, if this is permissible then this too should, as the “Dr” said.. No its Allah who ordains, not us: especially when He has explicitly stated all sexual satisfactions Haraam: except two.
Thridly, you find half a bulk of websites saying its haraam? I thought majority isn’t a proof for something being true! At least after reading this verse:
“And if you obey most of those on the earth, they will mislead you far away from Allâh’s path. They follow nothing but conjectures, and they do nothing but lie.”
al-Qur’aan 6:116
All the proofs they have is to feign that its harmless.
Lastly, before I waste more time on this, Just because getting out of this, after gettin in is very very difficult, Illa ‘Alla al-Khaashi’een :) {except for the true believers in Allâh – those who obey Allâh with full submission, fear much from His punishment, and believe in His Promise (Paradise) and in His Warnings (Hell)} It never ever means that its permissible. Then drugs would be the first thing to be classed as allowed!!
Some of the salaf said: “If 2 affairs were dubious to u and u don’t know which is correct then oppose that which is near to your Hawaa’.”
Taken from a lecture of Dr. Saleh as-Saleh Rahimahullah, entitled “lowly desires”, and I’d want those who wanaa chuck this disgracing act to listen to it once, atleast.
http://understand-islam.net/audio/andromeda.php?q=f&f=%2FFitan+and+Deviations+.+-+.+2.+Religions+and+Sects%2FDispraise+of+al+Hawaa+-+Lowly+Desires
Your bro in Islam,
Abu Sa’eed
Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh,
Istimna as it is called in Arabic (or masturbation) is a a sinful act. It is prohibatively disliked (meaning it is forbidden to do it). The only time where it is likened as the lesser of two evils is if someone was going to committ fornication or adultery – and this means was used not to go to that path. That said, Allah subhaanahu wa ta’ala tells us not to even come ‘close’ to zina.
What I find disturbing is that we have doctors and others here who are vouching for it – as if it were normal. When infact, masturbation is known to cause many family problems as well as sexual issues later on. It can also lead to addictions in lewd pornographic materials, as well as seing the opposite gender as just a toy.
Hence any path which leads to immoral acts – and will be to the detriment of society as a whole – Islam curbs that – and Istimna (or masturbation) is no exception.
However, it is allowed in marriage by the partner – as anything that would be classified as haram (such as zina & fornication) – if done with one’s spouse actually earns the person Hasanaat (good deeds). That said, it is the right of the wife to even ask that the husband does not waste the sperm outside of the body in the form of coitus interuptus – as it is her right & one needs to follow that.
Apologies for the graphic nature of the desciption – however if one wants to learn about the topic – they need to take it from reliable scholars, and trustworthy people – who themselves are not ‘immersed’ in this act – and cannot even see right from wrong anymore.
May Allah subhaanahu wa ta’ala help all our brethren who are stuck in this impasse of filth to get out of it and become productive Muslims to all of humanity – instead of wasting their life on this planet engaged in useless and wasteful nafsi inclinations (which are the whisperings of the shaytaan & of one’s lower carnal self (the nafsul ammarah!). Allahumaa Ameen.
Fi Amanillah
Abu Khadijah
Salamu alaikum.
My english is not very great so i will try my best to explain this problem.
Now regarding this masturbation problem people have…
1. When seeking ahkam in islam it is not allowed to follow your own lust/desire and select/pick what ever the ahkam that might fall in your interesst. With this being said, the person who gives fatwa SHOULD NOT argue from a scientific point of view. As there is no need of rational/logical understanding in Ahkam. If Allah (swt) gives the hikam then you KNOW WHY, if NOT then the hikma is hidden and one should not try to argue how healthy/bad an issue is from a rational/scientific point of view.
Forexample: One of the most classic issues where the muslims go terribly bad in arguing something that shouldn’t be argued from a rationa/scientific point of view is the ahkam in pork meat. Some muslim use to tell the non-believer that the REASON(ILLAH) why muslim can’t eat pork meat is because it is a dirty animal! Although Allah (swt) has NEVER indicated such (Because there is NO illah in that ayat), the muslim use his/her own rational thinking to fair/logicalize the ayat! This is very dangerous! Do not give illah, if there is NO illah!
The reason I mention this is because I see there is ALOT of links where people try to tell the muslim that masturbating is haram and that it is not beneficial nor healthy! Instead of using daleel (proof) to convience the believer (muslim) ALONE!
The bad side of argueing ahkam from a rational/scientific point of view is of course because…
1. Argueing ahkam from this point of view leads you to mistrust in Allah’s ahkam, because if you argue from a rational/scientific point of view then this(point of view) is dictating the ahkam of Allah and not reverse! Ahkam do not change, but rational thinking/scientific studies might! I don’t know the ayat piece by piece but I got the overall meaning: “…there are things you believe are bad but they are in fact good for you, and things you believe is good which is bad for you, and you know not, and Allah knows everything.” This should clearly give you an impression why a muslim should NOT take his own rational thinking/scientific point of view in ANY issues of Allah’s Ahkam! Take forexample Jihad, do you think jihad is healthy? Jihad is the most demanding physical actions in islam, sometimes the muslims “die” during this action. From a rational/scientific point of view Jihad is BAD! But what did Allah say about this? Meaning: “do not call the shuhadah for dead, because they are not” and “those who die in jihad receive the greatest reward in the akhirah(afterlife) so afterall there is ALOT of text in islam that DOESN’t make ANY sense if you use your rational thinking! Another thing i…if everything harmonized with our rational thinking / Scientific studies then why do we need Allah’s ruling?? Wasn’t it because Allah knew that mankind CAN NOT rule them self, He(swt) sent down Al-Quran to rule for us?? If everything could be rationalized then we have not need of Quran!
2. So for those of you seeking ahkam in masturbation, please, check out the hukm’s strength, read tafsir to hadith or ayat and check how strong the hadith is(Daif, Sahih, Hassan, Mutawater) instead of seeking rational arguments of why masturbating is healthy or unhealthy! It has NOTHING to do with the issue UNLESS Allah (swt) or Muhammad (saaw) has told so! Then look for the illah or hikma in the hukm!
BUT DO NOT USE RATIONAL THINKING / SCIENTIFIC ARGUMENTS IN AHKAM SHARIAH! It is NOT meant to!
“Don’t you think when you see the camel, and the sky and how night turns to day? It is surely a proof for persons with thinking”. Now this ayat might be contradicting what I’ve just said! BUT if you study this closer you see two sections here in Quran.
1. USE YOU INTELLECT/RATIONAL THINKING WHEN and ONLY WHEN you investigate the presence of Allah(swt) and how to find out His existence!
2. But once you’ve found it(Allah’s existence from the sensation via the reality) it is no LONGER halal to use your thinking! The rest is according to Usul Figh principles and terms! So no thinking are used any further!
This is generally how islam is built up regarding the limitation of human thinking where it can be applied and where it can not!
As for the scientific thinking, it can NOT be used in EITHER section! Because the scientifice thinking is limited to tangible realities ONLY! And the conclusion is not 100% as science change all the time!
1. Rational thinking = In the sphere where one have to find out if there is a God or not.
2. Rationl thining = FORBIDDEN when dealing with ahkam.
3. Scientific thinking = In the sphere where one have to find out a particular object(materia) to improve it or study it which has nothing to do with the divine or any other in-tangible matters such as soul, emotions, gravity etc. The last two mentioned is acording to some “scientific prooved, but in fact if one study the criteria of scientific thikning method it actually fall unde “Pseudo Science” where it is more rationa thinking than scientific thinking!
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Overview
Rational thining method is:
1. A Reality
2. One of the 5 senses
3. Previous information/experience
4. Healthy andfunctional brain
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Scientific thinking method is:
1. A tangible materia
2. Simulated environments
3. Observation
4. Emperical Conclusion which is not 100% sure
Scientific thinking is based upon rational thinking.
None of them can be used in ahkam shariah!
Salam to fellow brethens and sisters,
Y is it always assumed that masterbation is restricted to males only….and that all the rulings apply to the male desire and not the female one…there r many muslimas out there who also suffers from mental pressure, superstitious belief that masterbation causes bad luck, guilt, shame, and wat not….
Just lyk a male needs sexual release, so dus a girl…living in the 21st century this is a fact that we have no need to shy away from..if we’re talkin ’bout the Islamic point of view about masterbation…shudn’t we also take into consideration the whole sexual nature of all mortal beings?
I am in no way a scholar or even educated in matters of religious jurisdiction, however there are certain questions that i cannot help but wonder:
1. dus masterbation have any link with bad events or bad luck?
2. is there any clear hadith that fobids it totally?
3. y is materbation sinful in nature? because u’r sexually satisfying u’r self? dn’t we do that anyways wen we’re engaging in sexual intercourse wit our spouses?
Lastly, these were some question that I had for a long tym and felt that this page has ppl who r knowledgeable and logical enuf to answer some of my qualms…and Allah knows best in all and every matter
Please send me more information
hey everyone, i’m an 18-year old woman living in the u.s, and i just wanted to say, very respectfully to those who consider masturbation a horrible and unlawful act, the following things:
-do your research before saying things like “i’m losing my hair because i masturbate” or “people go blind b/c they masturbate.”
-don’t say things like “just follow what the scholars say or else…” that just makes people want to run in the opposite direction.
-please, please don’t blindly follow! and never, EVER stop thinking and questioning everything in life. being ignorant and following what everyone else says is exactly what we shouldn’t be doing.
-thinking about things like masturbation, among other things such as drinking alcohol and committing adultery, must be approached from a scientific perspective to truly understand why we should/shouldn’t participate in such acts. and i’d like to point out, while alcohol damages your liver and committing adultery leads to possible unprotected sex, unplanned pregnancies, and STDs, there is NO scientific proof that masturbation is unhealthy for us. on the contrary, it’s a major stress reliever and can help you overcome your day-to-day desires, especially in a Western society.
from my experience with masturbation, i’ll be honest: it is addictive, and it can be disrupting to your daily life. the trick is to limit it to a bare minimum, and try to do it for one purpose only: to curb your desire and prevent you from doing anything you’ll regret later.
other than that, i’d just like to stress the point i made before: keep questioning life, keep thinking and stimulating your mind. the more intelligent and aware you are about life, the higher the chances are of you taking your spirituality to a higher level than you ever thought you would.
assalamalaikum
if someone has masturbated out of the limit before his 20’s and has got all the advevrse effects is there any simple method to regain lost health and how to approach ALLAH for HIs forgiveness
to little bro V
U got it wrong abt fast(not faist), i mean da word “fast’ was used to mean “holding patience”, not da one u got.Fast can be used 4 many expression…U hav 2 read,learn more to recognize these meaning……
Repenting and being sincere about it, will gain Allah’s forgiveness, for Allah is the oft-forgiving one.
The point is, even if the deed in essence isn’t such a wrong one(health hazards), it’s practice is a harmful one.
On what do you masturbate?
I mean that would usually mean on adult images, this would mean you would either purchase or visit those sites or whatever, which results in supporting the sinners to sin more.
Because you become part of their market, and they will want to supply that need, thus sin even more, and this will degrade humanity even further.
Do you want to masturbate on thoughts concerning women you know?
Can you do this without somehow having psychological consequences, like being weird around that person in real life, or restraining yourself while all the time thru fantasy you have conditioned yourself to feel these aroused feelings with the thought of that person?
Do you find it normal to have these fantasies about another’s daughter/sister/wife ?
It’s hard to abstain but not impossible.
Turn towards Allah, and don’t approve these things!
Hi all, I am a Muslim living in Sri Lanka. I was not very religious, not praying, just going for Friday prayers, watching porn movies and masturbating a lot. But since recently, All mighty Allah has made me realized that I am going in the wrong direction. Now my life has changed. I pray five times and engage in all other good deeds. I am an Accountant by profession but now I want to get educated in Islam. That is do something like a Bsc in Islam / Islamic financial qualification.
I want to stop masturbating and recently I have done quite ok bottling it up. But the issue is if I don’t do it for about two weeks, I tend to discharge during my sleep and this effects my Subau / Thahajath prayers because it does not agree with me when I try to bath at that time of the night (sometimes might turn into a sneeze, wheeze, but not always) and to be frank it’s a bit embarrassing to do so as well.
So now I do it like once in every two weeks just to avoid the wet stuff during sleep so that it won’t affect my prayers. But still feel bad about it because there are claims that it is harm.
Any advice would be very helpful.
Hello
what do you do to clense yourself after a wet dream or after masturbating
just like anything, one should not dwell like a freak at the thing itself, but look at its causes. Doing that is an action, and it is the product of thought. If we protect our minds, then it will never produce such results. Keep the mind busy, lower gaze, and never let thoughts wander. Thoughts lead to action, so protect your mind. Don’t even let the smallest of thoughts invading it, read a book, get a hobby, go learn deen, workout, etc.
This is applicable to anything in life, look at causes rather than the results. Stop checkin out women, honestly- that’s a cause. Even looking is zina of the eyes.
Protect your mind, if the lens of a camera is dirty, all of nature’s wonders will appear dirty and blury. Protect your eyes, learn to appretiate the flooring of your life, lol, lower ur gaze.
1.)Pray 5 times a day, the SEcond adhan goes on- and pray as slowly as possible. Salah keeps all away from indecency- trust me, just try it.
2.)Be careful of your thoughts, your thoughts lead to actions.
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after reading this, just do tawbah, and the steps are:
1. sincere repenting to Allah
2. Feeling of dislike and loath to the act
3. Promise of never returning
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then don`t even turn back and look at ur old life, dont even think about it now. busy urself and ur time with more intellectually provoking endeavours, go read Quraan, read focoult, etc. get married sooner than u would`ve…
Salam,
MASTURBATION IS DESIRES AND DESIRES IS SHAITAN!!! so please my Brothers always REMEMBER ALLAH!!! At least try to READ WITH SINCERITY THE LAST 3 SURAH of THE QUR’AN..!May ALLAH GUIDE US ALL TO THE RIGHT PATH..AMIN!
masturbation..It is possible to stop this act it has been done, it is haraam, it can be very time wasting and become an obsession, it is easily paired with pornography, also it is accompanied by a feeling of emptiness. Just stop it after a while it will get easier u may have times when the desire is intense but it doesnt last long, it can be done, do it for gods pleasure. When the desire becomes intense ask allah for strength sincerely- watch u will get it.
Salam evry1
I was reading about masturbation, and trying to decide whether it wrong, it seems wrong, but my question is , im only 17 and female, and i obviously cant get married, but cant help wanting to do it, its so frustrating just cuz i get turned on so easily.. if i dont think bad thoughts with guys o anything, does that still make it wrong? i feel like there is no other way to relieve sexual tension its annoyingg!!! plese sum1 help
i started to masturbate when i was only 5 years old.i didnt know how i learnt it or how i started but i knew it was something i wanted to do and not let anyone know about it.i think it was a guilty feeling and i knew it was a sexual gratification but at that age i enjoyed it.i used to do something strange like crossing my right leg over the left till it causes pressure to my genitals and i would move my body in a way that i could have a pumping effect in my vagina by contracting and releasing and actually get the feeling of sex. i even start touching my body parts as sex but i never learnt sex from anywhere.i am surprised that i could do such a thing at that age and why was i sexually aware at that age.i have been addicted till this day(age 41 not married)
i try very hard to stop but always fail.and times i have actuall stopped over a period of 3 months but fail.i also feel that when i grew up as an adolosent i started to fatasize a man that i would imagine having sex with.i know its wrong but its such a strong feeling that i just need to do it .sometimes its overpowering and i start doing it in public but then i get away in privacy and get a fullblown attack.
i feel exhausted and guilty and sometimes i feel like i want to actually put an object.i wish i can stop and i always need ghusal.
i think its psychological. i know what i have written is sickening and many may feel offended but i need someone to help me