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In the past few days for some reason I have recieved an influx of visitors to the website and most people have been, masha’Allah reading the posts on the Fiqh of Fasting (after all it’s Ramadhan). The most popular amongst the posts for some reason (we live in the West) is the one on Masturbation. So acting upon the interests of the visitors to this website I have decided to compile a list of beneficial articles talking about Masturbation, the dangers of this habit and ways one can get rid of this addictive habit, insha’Allah. I know it sounds sick but this need sot addressed, the sooner one gets rid of this habit the better. Our religion is the religion revealed to the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam) form none other than our Creator, Allah and there is no shame in religion. It is better we tackle this issue directly instead of shying away from it. It is sick, but it needs to be addressed.
So the first thing that I found was the Wikipedia entry on the issue of Masturbation, which is almost completely useless except for the part on its risks and the risks of compulsive masturbation, unless one likes to know about the word’s etmology, techniques for males and females, and its history in cultures and religion then one should just stick to the risks of masturbation. I would still reccomend reading these from Wikipedia-
1. Health and Psychological Effects of Masturbation
Besides this there seems to be a plethora of articles from Muslim sources that talk about the issue of masturbation and its islamic ruling, and there are a few sources that talk about how to get rid of this habit.
The Ruling on Masturbation and conditions that may allow for it
Okay, first things first, what is the ruling on Masturbation in Islam, well here it is from IslamQA, there were literally half a dozen websites that just reproduced this same fatwa again and again (and again)-
2. Ruling on Masturbation and ways to cure it (IslamQA)
The ruling seems to be the same across the board for this. If one is having trouble quitting then he should write down the tips and advice and carry it around to remind oneself.
3. Masturbation is sinful and prohibitively disliked according to Hanafi Fiqh
4. Masturbation: A disastrous problem faced by the Youth
I thought this one was a bit comical, atleast the title made me laugh a little bit-
5. Solo Sex (Male and Female Masturbation (alinaam.org)
6. Remedy for Masturbation (alinaam.org)
From Islam Online-
8. How to Give Up Masturbation
9. Masturbation for Both Males and Females: A New Approach (IslamOnline)
From Fiqh mailing lists-
10. Hanafi and Hanbali ruling on Masturbation
Masturbation during Ramadhaan or Fasting
11. Masturbation in Ramadaan (IslamOnline)
12. Masturbation during Ramadaan and issues related to it (Fatwa-Online.com)
13. Invalidation of fast due to Masturbation (IslamQA)
14. Masturbation Breaks the Fast (IslamToday)
Other Non-Muslim and Secular Sources
15. Steps in Overcomming Masturbation
16. Reversing the Effects of Over Masturbation
And Allah Knows Best
May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon the Prophet, Sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, his family and companions. Ameen
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Fiqh of Fasting: Masturbation
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the reason many people are searching for an answer is because it isnt as clear as it seems. Whenever people read some of theese conflicting views, you cant but get the feeling that the writers are pushing their agenda majorly.
For instance, all the sites and all the views quote the same single ayah, and draw very different flavours of interpretation from it.
One site says it expressely forbids, but they make the assumption that mastubation is sex. whereas sex is short for sexual intercourse whereas there is no intercourse in masturbation. the ayah also refers to that which the right hand possesses.my first impression of this ayah is that it is a detterent and an admonition against adultrery. but using it against masturbation makes the assumption that the ourselves are not part of those whom the right hand possesses . In fact or right hand isnt part of that either.
Dont get the wrong impression. its not that i seek to push my own agenda or that im trying to defend, its simply that i need the truth. really. perhaps the scholars should make ijtihaad on it. rather than mess around with us.
the most concrete view thus far . onwe which dosent make seemingly strange and non-intuitive assumptions is.
that being said, We do have to follow the quraan when it says “Obey Allah ,Obey the Rasool , and the Scholars of your time”. So even though we may not understand there proofs or even not agree with them , we will obey Allah regardless.
And Allah knows best. May Allah guide us toward the straight path.
First of all, I do not think masturbation is a “sickness”; I think it is a quite natural human phenomenon. I think people who propound the notion that masturbation is “sick” are uncomfortable with topics related to sexual matters in general, because while it is a private matter, it is also very natural. I agree with the above respondent that masturbation is not sex. Many young people begin masturbation as a form of exploring their bodies, trying to be more comfortable with who they are and their budding sexuality. Unfortunately too many of them are made to feel ashamed of this self-exploration.
The Wikipedia link provided on the mental and physical effects of masturbation basically only talks about how people used to make claims that it was medically bad, without any real sound medical basis. Modern doctors say that masturbation can be a great stress reliever, and that it generally is not harmful provided it doesn’t affect one’s ability to function in other areas of life. It also is known to relieve menstrual cramps; now we all know that women can’t resort to fasting during their periods and that is the time when their (ahem) desires are strongest.
Thanx for easing the pain dear, that arose due to strict admonitions form the ones who dont realize the need of time. One act if satisfies a person’s sexual needs and helps them refrain from fornication or adultery I feel it to be good for them.
Great answer!
Masturbation is not a normal human phenomenon, it is not natural at all. It has only recently become a norm and a way of sexual exploration, which has to this time period where anything goes with regards to sexuality – the so called sexual liberation. Please don’t spread these ideas amongst other people for once they begin this path it is very difficult to stop. Do not follow your own desires and the shaytan’s desires of making the haram halal, for he is an open foe to you.
I reply to All,,,, Musterbating Is NOt Halam and it’s considered from prostitution….u might wont get it and u might say tht im sooo strickt in religion,,no I am not,,,and I used to say it’s halal (cuz it keeps me away of fornication) first time for me when I graduated from high school,,I started this habit,,I know tht it seems odd,,,bt Listen I am the only person to face this,,,I swear I was very gr8 at high school,,,all students ask me ,how I am soo happy always all the time,,, and I wasnt so polite about it,,,I used to make fun and stay with friends and we used to talk about musterbating and girls,,,,actually I was saying to them,,,WHy would I punish myself and do it with my hand,,I want a girl or I wont do it,,,,(at that time I never done it so far) then some of them hardly beleived in tht. after high school,,,i was soo free,,,and this damn emptyness ,,I didnt try to keep myself busy ,,so once I thought of doing it ,, I did it for tyhe first time ,,,it looked very very nice,,,,so I started to do it 4 times a day ,,u wouldnt beleive,,,,I swear,,even in ramadan I used to do it at night for twice,,,, i swear t god I stayed like tht more than a year doing it once everyday and soemtimes twice or more….my life got worse and worse and I used to have some bad thoughts ,,,most of the time I feel badness in myself,,,like if I was psychlogical bothered,,,and my liquid seems to be different ( one of the sicknesses of musterbating,,,,tht u get very horny and sexually active for what (for ur hand) for nothing bt ur hand ,,,so when u spermed ,,u feel too bad becaouse no one is around u ,,,no person no partner in tht(u get to the top then u fall down )that’s musterbating),,,I intended to stop it so many times,,,and I asked ALlah ,,bt I was lack of a strong will,,,my friend did it ,,after I knew tht my friend quit,,,I have had a gr8 will and I did ask Allah fvrom the bottom of my heart to help me with it,,,, I said to myself(stop this sexual life) and how wonderful life is without thinking of it sexually,,,, the one who thinks of his desires only,,,is like animals,,, so let’s use our minds to be gr8 persons and gr8 muslims,,,tht wouldnt be acheived by ourselves only,,,we have to ask the help of ALlah>>>> ALhumdullah for everything,,pls guys dont forget to pray for me(ur brother) to be clean of sexual desires till marriage.
Thanks brother, it would be very helpfull to those who are addicted to this evil act.
thnx bro ur story is so much similar to mine and i knw to a lot more Muslim youth out there too. By Allah’s Help and sincere repentance and endurance on our part can we get rid of this dreadful habit. I pray to Allah to Grant us all steadfastness on His Noble Path and the strength to resist such sinful temptations, Ameen.
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Assalamualaikum,
I dont know about the ruling becasue there seems to be a difference of opinion on it. But i do know that one feels guilty and sinful after doing it…
Is this enough for it to be classified as sinful?
If anyone has the answer to this please inform me. Thanks
Also, it takes tremendous levels of taqwa to suppress this urge. May ALLAH grant us all such high taqwa. Ameen.
O you who have believed, let those whom your right hands possess and those who have not [yet] reached puberty among you ask permission of you [before entering] at three times: before the dawn prayer and when you put aside your clothing [for rest] at noon and after the night prayer. [These are] three times of privacy for you. There is no blame upon you nor upon them beyond these [periods], for they continually circulate among you – some of you, among others. Thus does Allah make clear to you the verses; and Allah is Knowing and Wise. Al Qur’an, Surah 28 An Nur verse 58
Hi, I am a Muslim and I have also masturbated several times may Allah forgive me, every time I have done it I have felt like my head is going to explode, my hands start shaking, I lose my confidence, I get shy, and I feel I have commited a sin, Shaitan comes to you some nights and lets your sperm out if some people think that masturbation is good for health! So if that happens then we don’t need to do it. I have heard from some people that Masturbation is such a big sin that the one who commits it will have his/her palms burning in hereafter. If something is that much harmful for health and for your Iman and enforces Shaitan to dominate you, why shouldn’t we follow our messanger’s path “if you are so much erogenous and don’t have the ability to get married, try fasting”, alternative ways of preventing it are acailable on the internet, I’ll try them and I suggest you to try it
AK man! get a life and stop wanking! Get married if you have to dude! dang!!!
Assalamu Alaikum,
You are so right brother, we mustn’t shy away when it comes to tackling these kind of issues. It used to shock me when I heard things like this, when I was small. But not anymore. yahallah, I’m very sad to have witnessed people who I thought was religious and pious and good children to see them drink alcohol and indulge in mustarbation etc. I have discussed this and they have tried to stop but after sometime, maybe after a week, or month or after seeing some film or somthing they seem to relapse into the old habit. Now I have realised people who get into alcohol, sex, mustarbation must try to get help from someone who can help them get rid of this sins.
Nevertheless this is a great post with valuable collection of articles. I must go through it inshallah. I think this post will be valuable not only to Muslims but even religious people and parents from other religions like Christians, Jewish, Mormans etc.
Stop shagging and get married:)
a teenage guy cant just marry whenever he/she wants -.-
I dont know why it is that people claim masturbation to be sickening your health, I personally from my own experience have never felt any kind of sickness after doing it. Nor did I regret doing it once it was done. Some times I fealt sad and angry at myself, but that was purely because, I thought that it was 100% forbidden by all schoolars, something that I now realise is far from the truth.
So psychologically and physically I do not believe that masturbation is harmful to your body. In fact, it removed the sexual stress and thoughts that I kept in my mind all day long when not masturbatin!
Allah created us, our bodies, and our needs and desires.
When a person reaches puberty it is a need for your body to replace the semen at some point or another, the semen cannot just stay in there from the day you reach puberty, to the day you get married.
And as far as I know, the bodies respond to the need is to warm our body, and not least make us think of the opposit sex all the time, and this sexual thinking and warming body does not stop, it is strengthen as time goes on. At some point or another one cannot take it any longer, and has to fulfil his sexual desires and what are the alternatives?
I’m a young 15 year old boy and quite frankly, I have a very hard time with my body due to the schoolars who claim that masturbation is forbidden by Islamic laws. I live in the west, where the public is filled with woman, and some ARE attractive!
Now what I HATE so much is the “solutions” given by the Islamic schoolars, “solutions” that are supossed to take you away from masturbation, yet none of them can and do.
The first “solution” is to faist. I personally cannot faist, and I have my reasons for that: If I stop eating my mom will notice it and she will for shure ask me for why it is that I’m not eating, and a sexual conversation is not something that I would like to talk about with my parents. Nor would I want to faist everyday til I get married for that is simply impossible not to mention that I do not want to become thin and skinny.
The second “solution” is to lower your gaze. Well this is not something that you can do anywhere, anytime! When I talk to some one I look at them while talking, I do not look down. Now I DO look away when I’m in public, but that is not possible anytime anywhere.
Also I do not see why this could even be though of as a “solution”. Looking at woman does not strenghten your sexual desire or make your mind think of woman even more and deeper. Woman or not, your mind will still be thinking of woman when it is need for it. So lowering your gaze does not actully help :(
And then there’s always the marriage solution, but due to many reasons I personally cannot marry as a 15 year old boy :)
Other solutions include visiting the mosque, playing sport reading the Quran and such, but none of these actully help you when your not doing it!
I’m not trying to say that masturbation is greate, but it is the only alternative for the youth my friend! I have not masturbated for some weeks now but I know and realise that I cannot continue much further.
Now you being anti-masturbation I suppose, what advice do you have for me and others ? A 15 year old who have never ever had any “wet dreams”, or anything like it. For the last week and days I have bin thinking of woman 24/7, yet managed to not masturbate afraid of it being sinful. Now I’m reading every side of the story while attempting to create my conclusion for wether masturbation is forbidden or not, and I my friend need your respond as much as I need my conclusion.
Asalamu alleykum my friend.
hey V, It seems you are new to this awful habit. I used to musterbate in about 7 years since I was 13 and now 20s……
If you think masturbation is a some kind of stress relever think in reverse it is a stress stimulant.
I use to be bright student, people called me a genius wherever I study I am at the top student every where.
When I reached 18 mental side effects of over hand practicing(masturbation started) the common ones are
– Memory loss, I mean I couldn’t even remember some names of my classroom mates
– Poor concentration
– Lack of confidence and anxiety
– I lost about half of my hairs and I look older that ordinary
– I truly hates talking with girls and feel comfortable chat with my friends (male) I’m not a gay
– I afraid to reach any girls to talk even when I need something sometimes I become rude to women
– I feel more comfortable staying in my room all the time because the habit made me lazy sleepy I know every things
– I developed uncertainity problems meaning not sure of small thing I instructed.
– I needed to create website to provide this knowledge but it seems there are several websites developed.
For this time NO ONE can deceive to me the HE/ SHE is addicted to or not to masturbation. I now you for a single look and few conversation.
I have been masturbating since 9 years my mind was set like urs! That it has no adverse effects but now I see that Islam is never wrong
MY HAIR FALL HAS STARTED
I CANNOT CONCENTRATE ON STUDIES
MY HEIGHT WONT GROW
AND I REQUIRE HIGH TIME PERIODS TO GET AROUSED
If u want to be a good muslim please Stay in the company of the pious
Salam,
Someone more able better respond to the above brother V.
by the way, I think it’s Muharam, the Islamic New year so happy new year to everyone.
Happy new year my friend
Do you not agree with what I have said? IWhy is it that you believe it to be sinful?
Happy new year to all of you..
What you are saying, V, has a certain extent of logic and truth.. But to what extent can we say that this is halal or haram? To make myself clearer, will your conclusion ever fit what religion says?
People, in nature, always like to see life the way they like it – what philosophers call the “paradigm”. You see events from your own perspective and others see it from their own.. To what extent is your vision right/wrong? Is it right to judge your vision? It is your vision and perspective in the end, right?
What I am trying to say here is, sometimes we make conclusions about something after tackling it from many perspectives.. We go through a thorough period of examination and testing, to make sure that our conclusion is right – in our own perspective. We want it to be right because we want it that way.
Sometimes our conclusions do fit, and it is great this way.. However, there are many times that our perception and emotions play against us, mislead us. You feel that this person is good, but he turns out to be a master criminal. We see her as an insecure girl who does this and that, but she turns out to be an angel.. Our carnal self is a creature that loves sins.. It is our role to direct it to the right path..
Your body has been programmed this way. Whenever you are stressed or the desire level increases in your body, visions emerge that command you to masturbate. You begin to think about it, even get tired of it. You think that it’s normal and that it’s your body trying to get rid of the excess semen to make new one, right? Well, to tell you the truth, that is the way of Satan trying to get in. He will always try to find a way – if not a door, then it’s a window. This is addiction.
To turn away from it, you have to make sure that you want to. This is the first step to weaning yourself from this pernicious habit. It is with courage of conviction and deep faith in Allah that you can get rid of it. My advice, go now and pray.. Tell Allah that you want to stop it no matter what. You are addicted, so as myself, and you want to stop it. Conceive yourself stopping it, and how life would be. Pray and be committed to praying and zhikr.
It is true that with globalization and openness, you get to see all sorts of men and women and talk to them face to face, and might like some of them and get attracted to others. That’s true. What you can do, is to try to be as objective as possible; don’t let your mind soar.. Pull it down to Earth and don’t open any satanic doors, if you know what I mean.
As for your body, the bodily fluids are excreted from the body without your intention. When you exercise, do you tell your body to sweat or not? Can you command it? Sweat glands release sweat as part of the natural homeostatic process, even if you don’t want to. The same occurs with “wet dreams”.. This is the normal way of the body getting rid of its excess fluids. You might not have it some days, but in other days you might. Masturbation is not the healthy or correct way.
As for fasting, it is your own life. Why do you fast? Well the main purpose is to please God along with other reasons. It has been scientifically proven that fasting decreases the desires of the carnal self and lets you focus more on your life – really. It is with a full stomach that desires build, and that’s why fasting is a remedy. It’s your choice to fast after all, and if your parents tell you not to, then tell them it’s for God and it’s your way of thanking him and becoming more faithful. You don’t have to fast everyday, maybe Mondays and Thursdays? You pick the day(s) and make it a habit.
Whenever you get the desire, go read a page of the Quran, or two – as many as you wish. You might want to pray two rak’at and ask for help. You might also leave the house for a few minutes and get some fresh air. Might go play some basketball with some friends or run a lap around the neighborhood. Might go sit with family and talk to forget about it. There are tons of things you can do – you choose and you do. It’s your own perception.
Consider yourself a drug addict – God forbid, but take it as an example. You know it’s wrong, but you still take the drug.. Why? Because your body wants to.. You want to. If everyone agrees on taking them, then we would have never heard of people who became cleaner and started a new fresh start, right? Therefore, choose some good friends who you feel will get your mind off matters like this. Try to be close to the mosque (if you can).. Study well and expand your knowledge by reading useful things. Get your mind and vision off bad movies, websites and magazines and focus on the good ones.
One good advice is to keep a journal of your progress. Right now, you can write an introduction to your new life. Talk about the bad effects and the ugliness of this habit, so that every time your mind wants to think of it, all you do is read the journal and remember the bad effects it has on you. Keep track of what you do and how you feel. It’s for you only and no one has to read it. This way, you’ll hopefully get rid of it, inshAllah.
Soon, your body will be programmed the way you like, all with Allah’s help.
I don’t know if I’m ever going to open this site again. If I ever do, hopefully, I hope to hear the good news. Remember, it’s all with a first step, and yours is a serious repentance. I’m like you, and you and I are two of hundreds? Thousands? Millions? So repent now with a serious heart and tell us the good news. ;)
The ideas expressed here are of my own perception of looking at things. If they offend anyone/ misinterpret facts or else, I apologize. May Allah guide us to the right path.
Yours,
Someone..
Asalamu alleykum brother… :)
I somehow ended up in this website trying to find a way to cure this bad habit I’m having and desperately trying to avoid. In this Ramadan I have somehow controlled those desires so far but today I had a desire again which led me to search for a remedy and I ended up here. After reading a bunch of posts regarding masturbating and its bad effect and all, I’m actually able avoid it.
Also I’m gonna try out the ways you mentioned as well. Also feeling really guilty of myself, eventhough I didn’t exactly knew that it was haraam before :( May Allah forgive me.
And May Allah give us all the strength we need to overcome this and open the gates of heaven for us. Ameen.
Thanks for the information.
you guys dont know how hard it is to obstrain from it..it makes you feel guilty but you cant stop your self and you’d blame masturbation for a bad day or a bad luck with any thing..its becomming frustrating..as a student stress is like an everyday thing..and with masturbation the more you pull away from it the more you go towords it..its an addiction..and it sucks..i wish i never had this habit..and people in america feel its a good thing..its so hard to still stand firm on ur belief and keep away..my life is becomming so depressing that all i pray for is death.. because of this habit i dont even know if i am going to go to hell or heaven..studies are so stressful..i dont think future life is gonna be any easier..i have become sucha pessimist..some times i feel Allah tala hates me..:(
Hi ST ,salaams to u.
You should know that there are so many who go through the same experiences .
Its just a question of managing your situation.How to handle it and how to control it .Its a question of mind over matter.
One need to first have idea as to whether u regard mastubation as haraam or permissible .If u chose the former ,u may then feel guilty and all kinds of feelings will creep into ur heart that may lead you into frustration and unhappiness if this habit persist in ur life.(i am not saying chose the latter and all these guilt feelings would disappear-NO).
What i am trying to say is this.that you must decide how you want to handle this situation and once u have decided ,you then use solutions that best fit the the problem.
There is as yet no clear cut rules other than what people express personally as well as religiouswise.from AHADEETH. suffice to say that some regard it as HARAAM others again say that its permissible under certain circumstances ,others say its OK as a lesser evil .-lesser in a sense that it prevent u from engaging in HARAAM having sex with a woman outside of marriage ,(which is a big evil)..
Anyhow lots to be debated with this subject .Insha-Allah the Ulemah (learned scholars ) will eventually give their verdict (FATWAH) in a more united stand i hope .
Just one other reminder though .is that mastubation is permissible within the marriage confines as a means of sexual foreplay.HUman beings are not like a water tap where u just open the tap and water flows immediatly,no., Sexual foreplay is needed for a loving husband and wife to enjoy during their love making .and mastubation is one of it .
Hope my comments give you more light to this question.
All these comments describe me. but i have a major advantage, my addiction has gone really bad that i cant beg for forgiveness, i want to but that sence of fear and regret and the feeling has slowly vanished. it makes things harder for me, i really need help. My addiction is ruining me, iv become really unconfident and vulnerable the smallest things upset me. please give me advice brother. it would mean alot
V and ST here is article i found to help
its the 5th post down
http://uiforum.uaeforum.org/showthread.php?t=3889
I agree 100% with ST. Masterbation has caused me a lot of trouble and stress but I can’t get rid of the habit. I’ve been musterbating for more than 5 years now. Because of Musterbating I have lost hair, I have become bald in my head and it’s very stressesful because I’m still in my early twenties and all my friends have nice hair. I think about my hair every time and I get very depressed, I hate my self becuz of this. Even my facial and body hair has become very thick, thicker than my dads or uncles. This has my life a misery.
From the first time I did it I regreted and tried to get away from if. I thought it will be the last time. but time and again I’ve failed and done it again. Sometimes many times a day. Sometimes I was able to abstain from it for 2 weeks, sometimes 2 months, somtimes 6-7 months but again I’ve sucummbed to it. The urge and sensation to musterbate is unberable sometimes esp. if I accidentely or otherwise happen to see rousy images or scenes maybe in a TV Ad. or a girls half bare breat in a tight packed bus. I don’t want to do it again. But I have a feeling I will fail again and again. What can I do. Yallah please help guys like me… :(
Assalamu-Alikum Brother in Islam:
After reading the most of the articles, I came to the conclusion that some brothers are trying to use things in their own way. I want to share an experience with you and after that I would like to listen from you.
I was myself involved in this bad act for almost 7 years, but now i did not remember the day when I last time have done it which means it is now almost 10 years I have left this. If sin would not have been tasty then we Adam (asw) have been removed from teh heaven and sent to earth. Sin or unlawful things are attractive because saitan tries to take us away from the right path. this is the examination for which we have been choosen by our creator. It is not very difficult to get rid of this habit because people have practised this evil practise and have got rid of it.
For those, who says that it is not scientifically harmful, I want to tell those people it is teh taste of this evil practise which makes them not to recognize the bad effect fo this practise. I have a friend whose eye sight got very weak when he was 16. He talked to many doctors, but of not use. At last he went to a Hakim and told him abuot this practise. Hakim told him not to do this adn gave him a medicine and Alhamdullilah in a very short span of time his eye sight was recovered.
One method which I used for stopping this evil practise is whenever you get an idea of this thing, go to the bathroom and make Wadoo with cold water. Inshallah it will help a lot.
asalamu alykum
first of all if all of us are being honest with our selves if we think clearly about this issue we know for certain that it is haram with out hearing anything from the qur’an and sunnah why because of how it makes you feel afterwards, you feel extreme guilt afterwards upon committing this act. i remember i use to feel so guilty eventhough i was never told it is haram i knew it was haram because of the fitra, the way allah created me, so some advice first of all don’t let shaytan deceive you into making ways out for yourselves atleast admit it to your self that it is haram, second of all know that ghusl is a must after doing this act which a lot of ppl dont know thirdly don’t give up, this is what shaytan wants you to do thats the worst thing you can because only disbelievers give up hope in allah, fourthly do not swear in the name of allah that you will never go back to this act, this is a major sin and you will make things worse after breaking this promise fifthly try fasting mondays and thursdays and try hiding it from ppl because this will increase your sincerety and will make you determined and you will avoid of being asked why your fasting, sixthly and this is a repeat of a previous step do not give up this is important shaytan destroys us by making it seem we have done the worst act so do not give up .
also beware of crazy thoughts like the one V was saying speaking about allah without knowledge don’t voice your opinion when it comes to issue regarding al islam, yes its hard living in the west as a youth and there are distractions but that doesn’t give us the right to say what we want in terms of religious rulings so BEWARE OF USING YOUR INTELLECT when it comes to al islam.
lastly seek the help of allah and turn to him make continues dua to allah alone, seek his help alone , repent to him and the steps for repentence are you stop the sin, you regret it ,and you make the intention to never go back to it, don’t try to fool any and be sincere to yourself and to allah make the firm intention to NEVER go back to it , if you do go back to it don’t give up ,the key is that you make the firm intention to never return to it if you do than repent again you are human beings and you have short comings but the key is be sincere and determined make the firm intention of quitting and if it happens that you slip again than repent to allah do not give up and give in to shaytan the best time is the last third of the night around 3 or 4 or 5 am and turn to allah alone and seek his help and insha allah you will come out victorious
P.S. REMEMBER AND THINK ABOUT HOOR UL AYN, THE WOMEN OF JANNAH and insha allah the women of this life will seem insignificant to you
here is a link to it an article and an audio the idea is excellent
http://kalamullah.com/brothers.html
also listen to tracks 10 and 11 about paradise on the link below by anwar awlaki its excellent and insha allah will motivate you
http://islambase.co.uk/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=15&Itemid=181
and allah knows best
Assalamu Alaikum,
Still the fact about masturbation (according to religion or culture) remains ambigous. 50 percent of the websites I visited said that it’s good for one’s health while the remaining percentage went on the contrary. Pls I need the factual fact about it!
fuck those mulaaas…do a lot of masturbating and enjoy …..girlzzzz..love america..love girlzzzz..
masturbating makes me feel alot sexier…. i have got a lot of posters in my bathroom of my favorite girlzz naked….and showing their wet pussies..it’s great ..love it..
Shay u go to helll and post ur commnets some where else! not on here!!!
It is indeed a great, great dilemma that an abundance of youths going through in this day and age and, in fact, I myself, a victim.
With all the solutions that are mentioned above and rest not specified, I tried and still at regret position. And finally, I concluded, the very best way is to knot a tie and nothing.
May Allah give us strength to overcome with this hazardous activity,
Assalaam-o-alaikum.
Please people, stop spreading rumours and strange ideas. Being a doctor myself, I know for sure that masturbation is not harmful, not in a physical way nor in a psychological one. Would it be like this, all people in the western countries would have bald heads or would be mentally retarded.
I agree, that we should follow what the qur’an says, and what hadees say in general. And to a certain extent what the scholars say.
The most important thing is that you as a genuine practising Muslim don’t forget your own judgment. Just for once ask yourself why all these scholars have different views on this topic? Because they are not sure about this themselves.
For me what’s written in the qur’an is what counts. And in clear words it states: Don’t have intercourse outside your marriage and if you have slave girls, then go for it as well. Now these scholars want to sell us, that masturbating is haram and a slave girl, you are not legally married to is halal??? What kind of logic is this? Ok, I know. You might argue that logic is nothing to be found in religion. But for me it is, at least in terms of the stepping of the severeness of a sin, found everywhere in islam.
And the grade of punishment will result from the severeness of your sin.
According to this masturbation will come somewhere between having sex with your wife and committing adultery. Forget about the slave girl here (btw. would love to be born in those days and being rich…).
So for the scholars of ancient times it is haram to masturbate because it is not mentioned in this ayah or anywhere else.
What kind of logic is this again? Correct me if I’m wrong, but imagine all the things that would be forbidden, because they are not mentioned in the qur’an. Would it be forbidden to drink coffee or tee because it is caffeine or similar stuff in there that can cause addiction? Same could be said about computer games and a lot of other things as well then, isn’t it?
No doubt: Scholars were and are persons to be respected and they are for sure far better human beings and muslims, than the biggest majority of the rest of us. But, they are human beings and nowhere near our beloved prophet SAW. And therefore they can be wrong as well. And it is a known fact, that whenever it comes to sexuality you always get the feeling, they say or ‘assume’ what would please the masses and take the line of the least resistance. And most of the sayings on these topics we refer to are done by scholars who lived in a time extraordinary strict and full of taboos and far from the current times, where speaking out or discussing them has become a relatively common thing. It doesn’t bear contemplating what would have happened if one of them would have clearly stated it would be permissible in those times or even nowadays, about something declared a big sin and as a disgusting abnormity…
If you feel guilty after doing it, you do because you were taught it is wrong and something unnatural. Btw. I read some of the scholars say if your wife masturbates you or vice versa it is permissible, but guess what happens if you do it on your own…
It is a scientific truth that masturbation eases tension and helps you from being stuck in sexual thoughts and gives you relieve from them. An effect everyone knows out of personal experience even if not admitting in the open.
Suggestions as reading qur’an or showering cold doesn’t help much and is to be seen as nothing more than a placebo. Maybe this is the reason why it works with some people. I personally could never get rid of these thoughts or out of this certain state by following these suggestions. To be honest I would feel more uncomfotable and guilty having these thoughts while praying or reading qur’an.
I believe and I have read somewhere that god doesn’t want the mu’meneen to suffer, so it should be permissible to masturbate, if you have no other way to get rid of this very basic urge.
And medically or mechanically spoken, it is nothing else than to have intercourse, therefore it definitely does not harm you in any way. At least I never heard of any casualties in this field.
I would like to add it doesn’t make anyone blind as well. Even if in one case out of ten million a passionate masturbator would become blind that would definitely be called a coincidence not a result of the masturbation. I know that as a fact being specialized in that field… ;)
As for the end I would like to say that this is my personal opinion based on science, personal research and a little bit of common sense and analysis.
But everyone should decide on his own and Allah knows best.
Your comment is full of sense and logic. Thanks for writing this.
inshallah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Salam brother. So my question after reading your post is that there is no harm in it correct? It is a healthy activity?
I have to agree with this post wholeheartedly. I’ve been doing a lot of research on the subject, and while a lot of muslim scholars seem to be saying masturbating is haram, I have not been able to find any good evidence supporting this conclusion.
The scholars seem to be operating under the assumption that masturbating is sex. It’s not. Also, masturbating doesn’t have the negative effects that sex outside of marriage has.
A very large number of scientists believe that males over 16 who HAVE NEVER masturbated do not exist. 0%. It is simply something that doesn’t happen. 90% of people discover masturbation on their own, without being told about it. It also greatly decreases the risk of certain diseases, including prostate cancer, and has no known risks.
I’m also hearing that some of the reasons masturbating is obviously haram is that it breaks your fast, and you have to perform ghusl after it. However, even having sex with your wife breaks your fast and requires you to perform ghusl. Also, eating food breaks your fast. Neither of those things is haram.
Everything that I’m hearing here seems to be a result of people who think of masturbation as something that SHOULD be haram, because it seems haram. However, there is no evidence that it is. In we cannot simply take the scholars at their word. We would fall into the trap of the Christians and the Jews, for whom their religious leaders decide what is sinful and what isn’t.
What Allah (SWT) said is haram is haram, and what he said is halal is halal, and what he says nothing about is halal as well, unless the Prophet (PBUH) forbade it (and even that was by the command of Allah mentioned in the Quran).
I’m not seeing any real evidence suggesting that masturbation is haram, and plenty to the contrary. People are saying that masturbation is bad for you, but there’s no evidence to support it besides speculation by those who pretend like their speculation is the word of God (I worded it that way on purpose).
There is absolutely no proven scientific fact on which the Quran disagrees. Unlike other, corrupted holy books, the Quran is the perfect word of God, written by the creator, and as such, it can have no inaccuracies. Allah forbids alcohol in a passage that states something to the effect of “the harm outweighs the good” (and the benefits of alcohol have only become known recently, yet the Quran still forbade it expressly). There are many other examples, but one thing is clear: if ever some fact in the Quran were to be disproven, then that would mean that the Quran is false. I say this as a believing Muslim, who went through a crisis of faith and ultimately settled on my faith again a few years ago.
The sole support of the theory that masturbation is haram seems to be resting on a very specific interpretation of single ayah that was retrofitted to that ayah in order to create evidence that masturbation is haram, and you have to make assumptions that are never supported anywhere else in the Quran (who is to say masturbation counts as sex?). Even then, who is to say that the part about your right hand is not an evidence allowing us to masturbate?
I really think these points need to be considered by any muslim. What is haram and what is halal should not change based on whether you take a conservative or a progressive look at the Quran. I’ll end my post with that.
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
Yes, wa ma malakat aymanuhum refers to female slave girls, it’s an expression in the Arabic tongue.
You could say something and Allah aza wa jal drags you the distance of 70 years in Jahannam.
Our religion is not based on the limited minds of humans but on obedience to Allah and His Messenger.
It’s not hard to quit, you think it’s hard but it ain’t, just think why you wanna quit, and the only reason is for HIM. I leaved this bad habit for a while now. I’ve heard when I was on vacation in a Islamic country that everytime you do it, it’s like losing a drop of blood, that’s why you shouldn’t do it. DO MARRY ;)
u are talking about sex
its very true
Like the Dr. A above, I was brought up to rely on science, and so it is laughable to read people thinking masturbation leads to balding and blindness? Please, do not contribute to the notion that Islam is a backward religion. It is embarassing and frustrating for an educated Muslim to hear such ideas being propagated in the name of Islam.
However, it does not make masturbation encouraged (western idea).
Of all the opinions above, the ruling I feel most sympathetic towards is the opinion held by the Hanafi scholars. Try to abstain (by fasting or marriage). Remember, Allah and Prophet knows best. (“It may be that you like something that is not good for you” & “And who is more astray than one who follow his own lusts, without guidance from Allah: AL Qasas, 50″<< Quranic verses). But, should you lapse, that is no reason to give up trying to abstain and resort to hating yourself. Allah rewards effort as well, not just results. SO, keep trying.
Undoubtably, it will be hard to quit. So, be realistic, not idealistic. Aim to first maybe reduce your frequency. Spend some time thinking about what usually triggers your need to masturbate. Then design ways to avoid them. Develop a stronger bond with Allah by increasing ibadah to Him. Even if it might be embarassing, you can even approach an elder Muslim in your area (or even on the net) to counsel and help you through your problems.
As with everything in Islam, I think, it is best to take the middle path. To condemn masturbating to be haram, is to condemn many young Muslims struggling (in the West and other places), yet, to say it is halal, is to encourage the relieving of sexual desires outside the recommended way of marriage (which is what Islam encourages). Hence, for me at least, it is best to side with caution.
Wallahualam, Allah knows best.
salam oo alaykom.
ramathan kareem to all my brothers and sisters
i live in the west and in the past few months i have started masturbating regularly. yes i do feel guilty about it despite not knowing for sure if it is haram or not. one thing i have to say is though, when i do go through a period without masturbating, i end up having wet dreams, often including females whom i am friends with which can be disturbing. my question is, those who say its definitely haram, how are wet dreams ok then?
masturbation is a parasite.. it will only ask for more unless u stop giving any.
i saw animals masturbate and make thinks.. did Allah created me as low as these animals? NO! Allah gave me intelligence unlike those animals. I cud think I cud make decisions and I can stop masturbating! I am more than just an animal.
Frens please pray for me. May Allah give me the courage and strength to stop feeding this parasite and let it die once and forever.
Assalamu ‘alaykum..
At least a few brothers here dare to oppose their Hawaa (desires) :)
I felt I should write for “Dr” here. Firstly I myself am in this field (Medicine). Doc, Allopathic docs, says its not harmful.. But experience says here just the opposite. If i have not mistaken, after months of long “research” though its not a right word to use, I figured it out that its the allopathic docs alone who deem it harmless (correct me if i’m wrong). Just cuz they didn’t find any1 affected. Really i gotta laugh at this. I always keep myself from blind following – at least these kuffaar docs. I’ve seen n heard ppl speak out about themselves: their ill effects after doing this act and that alone is sufficient.
Secondly, Shar’an (acc to islamic jurisprudence) a single ayah from the Quraan keeps me from this. I was able to make excuses and chuck every proof saying its not relevant and its not this that…. etc.. except for this one:
“And (The believers are) those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts from illegal sexual acts).
Except from their wives or (the women slaves) whom their right hands possess – for (then) they are not blameworthy.”
al-Qur’aan 70:29-30
Allah forbade every kind of way to satisfy your sexual desires and He, the Ordainer of Sharee’ah, excluded from it only two things: Wives and the slaves (its not those which are found in our times, usually :)). Now no one has the chance to say, if this is permissible then this too should, as the “Dr” said.. No its Allah who ordains, not us: especially when He has explicitly stated all sexual satisfactions Haraam: except two.
Thridly, you find half a bulk of websites saying its haraam? I thought majority isn’t a proof for something being true! At least after reading this verse:
“And if you obey most of those on the earth, they will mislead you far away from Allâh’s path. They follow nothing but conjectures, and they do nothing but lie.”
al-Qur’aan 6:116
All the proofs they have is to feign that its harmless.
Lastly, before I waste more time on this, Just because getting out of this, after gettin in is very very difficult, Illa ‘Alla al-Khaashi’een :) {except for the true believers in Allâh – those who obey Allâh with full submission, fear much from His punishment, and believe in His Promise (Paradise) and in His Warnings (Hell)} It never ever means that its permissible. Then drugs would be the first thing to be classed as allowed!!
Some of the salaf said: “If 2 affairs were dubious to u and u don’t know which is correct then oppose that which is near to your Hawaa’.”
Taken from a lecture of Dr. Saleh as-Saleh Rahimahullah, entitled “lowly desires”, and I’d want those who wanaa chuck this disgracing act to listen to it once, atleast.
Your bro in Islam,
Abu Sa’eed
Assalamu ‘alaykum..
At least a few brothers here dare to oppose their Hawaa (desires) :)
I felt I should write for “Dr” here. Firstly I myself am in this field (Medicine). Doc, Allopathic docs, says its not harmful.. But experience says here just the opposite. If i have not mistaken, after months of long “research” though its not a right word to use, I figured it out that its the allopathic docs alone who deem it harmless (correct me if i’m wrong). Just cuz they didn’t find any1 affected. Really i gotta laugh at this. I always keep myself from blind following – at least these kuffaar docs. I’ve seen n heard ppl speak out about themselves: their ill effects after doing this act and that alone is sufficient.
Secondly, Shar’an (acc to islamic jurisprudence) a single ayah from the Quraan keeps me from this. I was able to make excuses and chuck every proof saying its not relevant and its not this that…. etc.. except for this one:
“And (The believers are) those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts from illegal sexual acts).
Except from their wives or (the women slaves) whom their right hands possess – for (then) they are not blameworthy.”
al-Qur’aan 70:29-30
Allah forbade every kind of way to satisfy your sexual desires and He, the Ordainer of Sharee’ah, excluded from it only two things: Wives and the slaves (its not those which are found in our times, usually :)). Now no one has the chance to say, if this is permissible then this too should, as the “Dr” said.. No its Allah who ordains, not us: especially when He has explicitly stated all sexual satisfactions Haraam: except two.
Thridly, you find half a bulk of websites saying its haraam? I thought majority isn’t a proof for something being true! At least after reading this verse:
“And if you obey most of those on the earth, they will mislead you far away from Allâh’s path. They follow nothing but conjectures, and they do nothing but lie.”
al-Qur’aan 6:116
All the proofs they have is to feign that its harmless.
Lastly, before I waste more time on this, Just because getting out of this, after gettin in is very very difficult, Illa ‘Alla al-Khaashi’een :) {except for the true believers in Allâh – those who obey Allâh with full submission, fear much from His punishment, and believe in His Promise (Paradise) and in His Warnings (Hell)} It never ever means that its permissible. Then drugs would be the first thing to be classed as allowed!!
Some of the salaf said: “If 2 affairs were dubious to u and u don’t know which is correct then oppose that which is near to your Hawaa’.”
Taken from a lecture of Dr. Saleh as-Saleh Rahimahullah, entitled “lowly desires”, and I’d want those who wanaa chuck this disgracing act to listen to it once, atleast.
http://understand-islam.net/audio/andromeda.php?q=f&f=%2FFitan+and+Deviations+.+-+.+2.+Religions+and+Sects%2FDispraise+of+al+Hawaa+-+Lowly+Desires
Your bro in Islam,
Abu Sa’eed
Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh,
Istimna as it is called in Arabic (or masturbation) is a a sinful act. It is prohibatively disliked (meaning it is forbidden to do it). The only time where it is likened as the lesser of two evils is if someone was going to committ fornication or adultery – and this means was used not to go to that path. That said, Allah subhaanahu wa ta’ala tells us not to even come ‘close’ to zina.
What I find disturbing is that we have doctors and others here who are vouching for it – as if it were normal. When infact, masturbation is known to cause many family problems as well as sexual issues later on. It can also lead to addictions in lewd pornographic materials, as well as seing the opposite gender as just a toy.
Hence any path which leads to immoral acts – and will be to the detriment of society as a whole – Islam curbs that – and Istimna (or masturbation) is no exception.
However, it is allowed in marriage by the partner – as anything that would be classified as haram (such as zina & fornication) – if done with one’s spouse actually earns the person Hasanaat (good deeds). That said, it is the right of the wife to even ask that the husband does not waste the sperm outside of the body in the form of coitus interuptus – as it is her right & one needs to follow that.
Apologies for the graphic nature of the desciption – however if one wants to learn about the topic – they need to take it from reliable scholars, and trustworthy people – who themselves are not ‘immersed’ in this act – and cannot even see right from wrong anymore.
May Allah subhaanahu wa ta’ala help all our brethren who are stuck in this impasse of filth to get out of it and become productive Muslims to all of humanity – instead of wasting their life on this planet engaged in useless and wasteful nafsi inclinations (which are the whisperings of the shaytaan & of one’s lower carnal self (the nafsul ammarah!). Allahumaa Ameen.
Fi Amanillah
Abu Khadijah
Salamu alaikum.
My english is not very great so i will try my best to explain this problem.
Now regarding this masturbation problem people have…
1. When seeking ahkam in islam it is not allowed to follow your own lust/desire and select/pick what ever the ahkam that might fall in your interesst. With this being said, the person who gives fatwa SHOULD NOT argue from a scientific point of view. As there is no need of rational/logical understanding in Ahkam. If Allah (swt) gives the hikam then you KNOW WHY, if NOT then the hikma is hidden and one should not try to argue how healthy/bad an issue is from a rational/scientific point of view.
Forexample: One of the most classic issues where the muslims go terribly bad in arguing something that shouldn’t be argued from a rationa/scientific point of view is the ahkam in pork meat. Some muslim use to tell the non-believer that the REASON(ILLAH) why muslim can’t eat pork meat is because it is a dirty animal! Although Allah (swt) has NEVER indicated such (Because there is NO illah in that ayat), the muslim use his/her own rational thinking to fair/logicalize the ayat! This is very dangerous! Do not give illah, if there is NO illah!
The reason I mention this is because I see there is ALOT of links where people try to tell the muslim that masturbating is haram and that it is not beneficial nor healthy! Instead of using daleel (proof) to convience the believer (muslim) ALONE!
The bad side of argueing ahkam from a rational/scientific point of view is of course because…
1. Argueing ahkam from this point of view leads you to mistrust in Allah’s ahkam, because if you argue from a rational/scientific point of view then this(point of view) is dictating the ahkam of Allah and not reverse! Ahkam do not change, but rational thinking/scientific studies might! I don’t know the ayat piece by piece but I got the overall meaning: “…there are things you believe are bad but they are in fact good for you, and things you believe is good which is bad for you, and you know not, and Allah knows everything.” This should clearly give you an impression why a muslim should NOT take his own rational thinking/scientific point of view in ANY issues of Allah’s Ahkam! Take forexample Jihad, do you think jihad is healthy? Jihad is the most demanding physical actions in islam, sometimes the muslims “die” during this action. From a rational/scientific point of view Jihad is BAD! But what did Allah say about this? Meaning: “do not call the shuhadah for dead, because they are not” and “those who die in jihad receive the greatest reward in the akhirah(afterlife) so afterall there is ALOT of text in islam that DOESN’t make ANY sense if you use your rational thinking! Another thing i…if everything harmonized with our rational thinking / Scientific studies then why do we need Allah’s ruling?? Wasn’t it because Allah knew that mankind CAN NOT rule them self, He(swt) sent down Al-Quran to rule for us?? If everything could be rationalized then we have not need of Quran!
2. So for those of you seeking ahkam in masturbation, please, check out the hukm’s strength, read tafsir to hadith or ayat and check how strong the hadith is(Daif, Sahih, Hassan, Mutawater) instead of seeking rational arguments of why masturbating is healthy or unhealthy! It has NOTHING to do with the issue UNLESS Allah (swt) or Muhammad (saaw) has told so! Then look for the illah or hikma in the hukm!
BUT DO NOT USE RATIONAL THINKING / SCIENTIFIC ARGUMENTS IN AHKAM SHARIAH! It is NOT meant to!
“Don’t you think when you see the camel, and the sky and how night turns to day? It is surely a proof for persons with thinking”. Now this ayat might be contradicting what I’ve just said! BUT if you study this closer you see two sections here in Quran.
1. USE YOU INTELLECT/RATIONAL THINKING WHEN and ONLY WHEN you investigate the presence of Allah(swt) and how to find out His existence!
2. But once you’ve found it(Allah’s existence from the sensation via the reality) it is no LONGER halal to use your thinking! The rest is according to Usul Figh principles and terms! So no thinking are used any further!
This is generally how islam is built up regarding the limitation of human thinking where it can be applied and where it can not!
As for the scientific thinking, it can NOT be used in EITHER section! Because the scientifice thinking is limited to tangible realities ONLY! And the conclusion is not 100% as science change all the time!
1. Rational thinking = In the sphere where one have to find out if there is a God or not.
2. Rationl thining = FORBIDDEN when dealing with ahkam.
3. Scientific thinking = In the sphere where one have to find out a particular object(materia) to improve it or study it which has nothing to do with the divine or any other in-tangible matters such as soul, emotions, gravity etc. The last two mentioned is acording to some “scientific prooved, but in fact if one study the criteria of scientific thikning method it actually fall unde “Pseudo Science” where it is more rationa thinking than scientific thinking!
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Overview
Rational thining method is:
1. A Reality
2. One of the 5 senses
3. Previous information/experience
4. Healthy andfunctional brain
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Scientific thinking method is:
1. A tangible materia
2. Simulated environments
3. Observation
4. Emperical Conclusion which is not 100% sure
Scientific thinking is based upon rational thinking.
None of them can be used in ahkam shariah!
Its people like you who frankly give me impulses to kill more people like you. Allah gave you and me a brain so that we can use it. You know what happens when we don’t? We turn into the so called Muslim Ummah who is ready to blindly follow any bearded scum bag (people like Usama bin laden and what not)
That being said there is a difference between a computer and Allah. A computer only marks your test for right or wrong answers. Allah knows everything about you and all the different ways he is himelf giving you oppurtunities for you to do well in the test. So everyone will be tested according to his own conditions. If you dont feel horny, fine. If there is some other Muslim who has a greater requirement for sex (maybe he naturally produces more hormones) let him masturbate, there is no clear cut hadith stopping him anyway. Let Allah be the judge.
I think ALL THE MUSLIMS SHOULD ONLY FOLLOW QURAN WITH SOME LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE SINCE ALLAH HIMSELF TOOK RESPONSIBILITY TO PROTECT HIS WORD. As far as Hadith is considered, its just a reference narrated mostly by word of mouth through generation and then compiled 100 or so years after the death of the Prophet(PBUH) and IS OPEN FOR DISCUSSION AND CHALLENGE SINCE ALLAH DIDNT STATE HE WILL PROTECT IT. IT SHOULD BE USED CAUTIOUSLY SINCE MANY HUMANS (THE DIRTY IMPERFECT HUMANS as Quran stated) MAY HAVE DELIBERATELY OR BY MISTAKE WARPED THE WORD.
So next time some one comes to you and tells you to blow up the white trash infidels be frank and ask why? Compare it with Quran; it clearly states that innocent people are not to be hurt and that Muslims shouldnt attack without announcing. Tell him that, reject the Hadith, show him the finger and be free to move on with your peaceful life.
Salam to fellow brethens and sisters,
Y is it always assumed that masterbation is restricted to males only….and that all the rulings apply to the male desire and not the female one…there r many muslimas out there who also suffers from mental pressure, superstitious belief that masterbation causes bad luck, guilt, shame, and wat not….
Just lyk a male needs sexual release, so dus a girl…living in the 21st century this is a fact that we have no need to shy away from..if we’re talkin ’bout the Islamic point of view about masterbation…shudn’t we also take into consideration the whole sexual nature of all mortal beings?
I am in no way a scholar or even educated in matters of religious jurisdiction, however there are certain questions that i cannot help but wonder:
1. dus masterbation have any link with bad events or bad luck?
2. is there any clear hadith that fobids it totally?
3. y is materbation sinful in nature? because u’r sexually satisfying u’r self? dn’t we do that anyways wen we’re engaging in sexual intercourse wit our spouses?
Lastly, these were some question that I had for a long tym and felt that this page has ppl who r knowledgeable and logical enuf to answer some of my qualms…and Allah knows best in all and every matter
Please send me more information
hey everyone, i’m an 18-year old woman living in the u.s, and i just wanted to say, very respectfully to those who consider masturbation a horrible and unlawful act, the following things:
-do your research before saying things like “i’m losing my hair because i masturbate” or “people go blind b/c they masturbate.”
-don’t say things like “just follow what the scholars say or else…” that just makes people want to run in the opposite direction.
-please, please don’t blindly follow! and never, EVER stop thinking and questioning everything in life. being ignorant and following what everyone else says is exactly what we shouldn’t be doing.
-thinking about things like masturbation, among other things such as drinking alcohol and committing adultery, must be approached from a scientific perspective to truly understand why we should/shouldn’t participate in such acts. and i’d like to point out, while alcohol damages your liver and committing adultery leads to possible unprotected sex, unplanned pregnancies, and STDs, there is NO scientific proof that masturbation is unhealthy for us. on the contrary, it’s a major stress reliever and can help you overcome your day-to-day desires, especially in a Western society.
from my experience with masturbation, i’ll be honest: it is addictive, and it can be disrupting to your daily life. the trick is to limit it to a bare minimum, and try to do it for one purpose only: to curb your desire and prevent you from doing anything you’ll regret later.
other than that, i’d just like to stress the point i made before: keep questioning life, keep thinking and stimulating your mind. the more intelligent and aware you are about life, the higher the chances are of you taking your spirituality to a higher level than you ever thought you would.
assalamalaikum
if someone has masturbated out of the limit before his 20’s and has got all the advevrse effects is there any simple method to regain lost health and how to approach ALLAH for HIs forgiveness
to little bro V
U got it wrong abt fast(not faist), i mean da word “fast’ was used to mean “holding patience”, not da one u got.Fast can be used 4 many expression…U hav 2 read,learn more to recognize these meaning……
Repenting and being sincere about it, will gain Allah’s forgiveness, for Allah is the oft-forgiving one.
The point is, even if the deed in essence isn’t such a wrong one(health hazards), it’s practice is a harmful one.
On what do you masturbate?
I mean that would usually mean on adult images, this would mean you would either purchase or visit those sites or whatever, which results in supporting the sinners to sin more.
Because you become part of their market, and they will want to supply that need, thus sin even more, and this will degrade humanity even further.
Do you want to masturbate on thoughts concerning women you know?
Can you do this without somehow having psychological consequences, like being weird around that person in real life, or restraining yourself while all the time thru fantasy you have conditioned yourself to feel these aroused feelings with the thought of that person?
Do you find it normal to have these fantasies about another’s daughter/sister/wife ?
It’s hard to abstain but not impossible.
Turn towards Allah, and don’t approve these things!
Hi all, I am a Muslim living in Sri Lanka. I was not very religious, not praying, just going for Friday prayers, watching porn movies and masturbating a lot. But since recently, All mighty Allah has made me realized that I am going in the wrong direction. Now my life has changed. I pray five times and engage in all other good deeds. I am an Accountant by profession but now I want to get educated in Islam. That is do something like a Bsc in Islam / Islamic financial qualification.
I want to stop masturbating and recently I have done quite ok bottling it up. But the issue is if I don’t do it for about two weeks, I tend to discharge during my sleep and this effects my Subau / Thahajath prayers because it does not agree with me when I try to bath at that time of the night (sometimes might turn into a sneeze, wheeze, but not always) and to be frank it’s a bit embarrassing to do so as well.
So now I do it like once in every two weeks just to avoid the wet stuff during sleep so that it won’t affect my prayers. But still feel bad about it because there are claims that it is harm.
Any advice would be very helpful.
Hello
what do you do to clense yourself after a wet dream or after masturbating
just like anything, one should not dwell like a freak at the thing itself, but look at its causes. Doing that is an action, and it is the product of thought. If we protect our minds, then it will never produce such results. Keep the mind busy, lower gaze, and never let thoughts wander. Thoughts lead to action, so protect your mind. Don’t even let the smallest of thoughts invading it, read a book, get a hobby, go learn deen, workout, etc.
This is applicable to anything in life, look at causes rather than the results. Stop checkin out women, honestly- that’s a cause. Even looking is zina of the eyes.
Protect your mind, if the lens of a camera is dirty, all of nature’s wonders will appear dirty and blury. Protect your eyes, learn to appretiate the flooring of your life, lol, lower ur gaze.
1.)Pray 5 times a day, the SEcond adhan goes on- and pray as slowly as possible. Salah keeps all away from indecency- trust me, just try it.
2.)Be careful of your thoughts, your thoughts lead to actions.
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after reading this, just do tawbah, and the steps are:
1. sincere repenting to Allah
2. Feeling of dislike and loath to the act
3. Promise of never returning
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then don`t even turn back and look at ur old life, dont even think about it now. busy urself and ur time with more intellectually provoking endeavours, go read Quraan, read focoult, etc. get married sooner than u would`ve…
Salam,
MASTURBATION IS DESIRES AND DESIRES IS SHAITAN!!! so please my Brothers always REMEMBER ALLAH!!! At least try to READ WITH SINCERITY THE LAST 3 SURAH of THE QUR’AN..!May ALLAH GUIDE US ALL TO THE RIGHT PATH..AMIN!
masturbation..It is possible to stop this act it has been done, it is haraam, it can be very time wasting and become an obsession, it is easily paired with pornography, also it is accompanied by a feeling of emptiness. Just stop it after a while it will get easier u may have times when the desire is intense but it doesnt last long, it can be done, do it for gods pleasure. When the desire becomes intense ask allah for strength sincerely- watch u will get it.
Salam evry1
I was reading about masturbation, and trying to decide whether it wrong, it seems wrong, but my question is , im only 17 and female, and i obviously cant get married, but cant help wanting to do it, its so frustrating just cuz i get turned on so easily.. if i dont think bad thoughts with guys o anything, does that still make it wrong? i feel like there is no other way to relieve sexual tension its annoyingg!!! plese sum1 help
I want to marry you so that we will stop this bad habit. We will definitely relieve each other.
Plz bro be serious
i started to masturbate when i was only 5 years old.i didnt know how i learnt it or how i started but i knew it was something i wanted to do and not let anyone know about it.i think it was a guilty feeling and i knew it was a sexual gratification but at that age i enjoyed it.i used to do something strange like crossing my right leg over the left till it causes pressure to my genitals and i would move my body in a way that i could have a pumping effect in my vagina by contracting and releasing and actually get the feeling of sex. i even start touching my body parts as sex but i never learnt sex from anywhere.i am surprised that i could do such a thing at that age and why was i sexually aware at that age.i have been addicted till this day(age 41 not married)
i try very hard to stop but always fail.and times i have actuall stopped over a period of 3 months but fail.i also feel that when i grew up as an adolosent i started to fatasize a man that i would imagine having sex with.i know its wrong but its such a strong feeling that i just need to do it .sometimes its overpowering and i start doing it in public but then i get away in privacy and get a fullblown attack.
i feel exhausted and guilty and sometimes i feel like i want to actually put an object.i wish i can stop and i always need ghusal.
i think its psychological. i know what i have written is sickening and many may feel offended but i need someone to help me
Salam my brother, personally i think Mastubation is a bad habit that we need to erase from ourselves. I’m not saying that having sexual urge is a bad habit, it’s comes naturally. But, we need to remind ourselves that Allah has given us borders in which we can excersice sexual urge. Acting out of the borders leads to consequences.
I myself am trying to get Rid of this habit. Everytime i am overpowered by the sexual urge and mastubate, i immediately clean myself by having a ”hadas bath”. Then i ask for forgiveness from Allah, and try my best the next time not to do it again… Hope this helps for the brothers out there.
i am totally with you, than what we do when we have sex requirements
i like this web site pls sent what what was wrong in islam .. in my mail please.
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god bless you..
allhamdhulilla
asalaamu alaikum.
well believe it or not i am only 16 and i was reading about masturbation and im female.i have actually done it by myself quiet alot and i cant get rid of the habit.is it actually sex?,is it haram?,or not? somwone ansur me! I WANT A TRUE ANSUR! NOT AN OPINION!!!!……………..
Islam has any order about who to controll sex when we are not married? is MUTTAH A Nissa is allow in islam, it is allowed in Quran? and there is no ayat about the cancellation of MUTTAH. then why it is prohibeted in Sunni sect not in Shiah sect. please inform me by authentic source or ayat by any muslim
all of the scholars and people who are saying that masturbation doesn’t have any physical effect, are wrong!
when a person masturbates, it dis-balances the hormones in our body, thus, we become physically weak, this dis-balance also encourages the body to produce sebum(oil producing cells, results into oily skin) which causes pimples and other skin allergys. if you wanna get rid of pimples and oily skin, stop masturbating, or at least practice it once or twice a month if u find it hard to control ;)
Thank you Salmaan, the negative effects from masturbation are too many that it would be wiser to marry instead of the poor practice.
im a married girl, but my husband is living in canada while im in pakistan..this situation really frustrates me. i cant go to my husband until i get my immigration. i got married 5 months ago, i dont how much longer i will have to wait. i cannot ask my husband to visit me often as is not easy to travel on frequent basis..is it ok to masturbate in such situation.. like once in while.. ive pray 5 times a day, i fast, im keeping myself as much busy as i can.. but its not always easy to NOT thinking about it! what should i do?? i dont want to make a habit of this sinful act, but sometimes its not easy to control.. please tell me!
if it is prohibited in islam.we should quite it.as we are muslims we have to quite it without thinking anything.
if it is prohibited in islam.we should quite it.as we are muslims we have to quite it without thinking anything.so we have to take some hard efforts to quite this worst sin.
dont start, it wil be difficult to stop even after u are reunited with ur husband. again ur genital will get loose (not tight anymore)which means ur husband will not enjoy u as before….”the beginning of marital problem” bc ur husband will feel the difference. is better to be patient now, than to unsweetened urself. if u want to know whether it is low full or not, ask ur husband…. am sure he’ll say “it is”
In our religion ISLAM, its only the orderly sexual act that is allowed. In case of much sexual pressure for the unmarried people, Islam already put some remedies but not masturbation. If masturbation was allowed, some verses would be in place to support it. That act challenges normal sex and threatens human race continuity- Musa Wamala
Assalamo alaikum {[siscor] i.e student of islam and comparative religion} I am boy and I 19 years old
I studied all the matters [Islamic and peoples views] and come to conclusion that masturbation is not voided in Islam but
Masturbation is only allowed in the very rare situation where:
o if the person did not do this, they genuinely fear that they would fall into actual zina (i.e. unlawful sexual intercourse), because of their uncontrollable desire, and
o they are unable to marry, and
o have taken all reasonable means to lessen their passion (such as fasting, lowering their gaze, avoiding meat and dairy products, avoiing those things that stir their desires, such as bad company, spending unnecessary time outdoors, especially in public places such as shopping malls where there is fitna, avoiding watching tv and surfing the internet, etc).
In such cases, it is not haram because of the principle that, “If there are only two options, but harmful, then one takes the lesser of the two harms to avoid the greater one.”
However, when there are third options, it remains impermissible to take the lesser harm, such as masturbation.
Even when the conditions outlined above are met, it would only not be impermissible to the extent necessary to quieten one’s sexual desire, not for sexual gratification. Otherwise, it would remain sinful. These conditions are extremely rare.
[derived from: Ibn Abidin’s Hashiya, al-Lakhnawi’s Naf` al-Mufti wa’l Sa’il, and al-Nahlawi’s Durar al-Mubaha, Kamal ibn al-Humam’s Fath al-Qadir]
As for the fast: masturbation that leads to ejaculation invalidates the fast.
And Allah knows best.
Regarding the position of the Hanbali madhhab regarding masturbation, Kashshaf Al-Qina` (6:125) indicates that whoever masturbates out of fear of committing fornication or fear for their body has done nothing wrong and is not punished if (and only if) he is unable to marry–even a slave girl–and if he was able to marry it is unlawful and he is entitled to punishment. This applies to men and women equally. The reason given is out of necessity (durara), which was mentioned above.
Please note that one of the conditions is that the person in question not even be able to marry a slave girl who is someone else’s property, which means that any children would be born into slavery. What is significant here is that having your children born slaves is better than masturbation. This is not a light matter.
Also please note that provided there is someone that one could marry, masturbation is unlawful. No where does it say that the spouse has to be from the same culture, has to be a perfect match, or anything like that. As long as there is an upright marriageable Muslim it is unlawful, and if not punished in this world it surely is in the next. It goes back to availability, not economic stability, diploma, beauty, hair color, nationality, ethnicity or cultural origins. There are a lot of people who mix up necessity, need and luxury. This ruling is about necessity.
In closing, we know that divorce is the most despicable of lawful things to Allah, whereas fornication is haram. Parents should keep this in mind before putting so many conditions that must be met before marriage, especially since anything that leads to the unlawful is itself unlawful.
I hope a religious answer is completed.
As far as the matter of feeling guilty lies in the fact that the act performed in secretly especially sexual, feels someone guilty. While my personal experience gives me information that as long it is discussed b/w friends it doesn’t feel that it is not good. Otherwise it becomes a stress.
May Allah help us to keep it at arm’s length.
Hoi!
I don’t like to say salaam, because, I think you can be a jews saithaan. you have given the opinion that masturbation can be allowed, when we are young people, you know what time period it was ? on that time, we can’t know or search this fatwa. youngster will think on that stage masturbation is allowed in islam. Are you thinking a genius in islam than Allah. Allah and Rashool has forbidden this saithaan thing. Saithaan, Can you recover youngster life? once done, till his death, nobody can stop this jews behaviour. Don’t destroy islam. don’t destroy islam, don’t destroy islam, don’t destroy islam, don’t destroy islam, don’t destroy islam, don’t destroy islam….. in billion times will continue if you say as masturbation is halaal. even a .000…000001 million point zero masturbation is not allowed in islam. May Allah give severe punishment in Jahannam to All your saithaan schalors than Firavun because of giving masturbation is sometimes halaal.
Hoi!
I don’t like to say salaam, because, I think you can be a jews saithaan. you have given the opinion that masturbation can be allowed, when we are young people, you know what time period it was ? on that time, we can’t know or search this fatwa. youngster will think on that stage masturbation is allowed in islam. Are you thinking a genius in islam than Allah. Allah and Rashool has forbidden this saithaan thing. Saithaan, Can you recover youngster life? once done, till his death, nobody can stop this jews behaviour. Don’t destroy islam. don’t destroy islam, don’t destroy islam, don’t destroy islam, don’t destroy islam, don’t destroy islam, don’t destroy islam….. in billion times will continue if you say as masturbation is halaal. even a .000…000001 million point zero masturbation is not allowed in islam. May Allah give severe punishment in Jahannam to All your saithaan schalors than Firavun because of giving masturbation is sometimes halaal.
Assalam o alaikum
I am a nineteen years old boy. I started masturbation from the age of 15 yeas old
Without conforming that it is permissible or not. And did it much so much. But for
Last two years did not do it regularly. But I wanted to have answer that now few days.
I was suffering from sexual frustration.
I put shraee and my personal opinion before on this site. But from “someone” and
“Dr” s views I was much confused.
But now {AL HUM DU LILLAH} I offer prayer of two rakah before sleeping
And prays to HIM to direct me to the right past. Now I have less sexual fantasies
Less thought about it. I cannot but only hope that my opinion will help all of you.
And I cannot but only hope that I will not perform it again.
Your
Siscor [naveed
]
This is my emai
umaru.usman76@yahoo.com
Masturbation comes from sexual awakening, and upon the realization the person SHOULD STOP IMMEDIATELY. If parents engage in the proper ‘talk’ with the person as a child, then suck exploration, will stop for the best :)
Actually, opposed to generic belief, MASTURBATION IS DEFINITELY UNHEALTHY. You can look it up if you want. It leads to erectile dysfunction. You will end up acquiring P.E after awhile, which is to say premature ejaculation.In other words…(ahem) let me break this down, the males end up ‘blowing their load’ extremely easily (when they aren’t even in intercourse or relatively close to an orgasm). Even if the male is slightly aroused by watching an ill-clad lady walking by (don’t do this, girls -.-) he will release semen, and soak his pants in daylight, without even knowing….or trying.
And females who masturbate- I’m pretty sure, people don’t WASH THEIR HANDS before getting down to business. Really, what if your fingers are deemed dirty with bacteria, and you do it? What then? The vagina will be a petridish :|
and that’s gross.
REMEMBER, ALL THAT IS HARAM, ONE WAY OR ANOTHER IS UNHEALTHY. EVERYTHING HARAM IS PROHIBITED BECAUSE IT IS UNHEALTHY. THEREFORE, CONCLUDING THAT MASTURBATION IS EMPTY–> STOP.
masturbation helps me
to sleep
de stress
stop trying to pick up girls
concentrate on other things in life
it has
improved my performance in bed with my wife
i can stay hard very long time
ive read a lot of bullshit on this website abut the harmful effects
salaam
first of all i would like to thank you for putting and to many references in you article to explain the persons that what is right and what is worng in detail nice word bro to guide the people the right path
Assalam Alaikum
I am a student, going to 22yrs. I started masturbation since I was 18yrs, I daily masturbate especially at night. I was thinking its just a pleasure and is good. But I dont know the side effect of it and I did not make research on it. But suddenly I realise some changes not more than 3month, changes like; weak erection, sharp pain in my head and in my stomach, some times I feel no desire for sex. From this point, I just totally quite, I hate it now, thank God I am doing some research on it. I hope so I will be in normal position if I leave it at all. But some peoples are claiming that its good and normal, it is not, just a deadly act. I can remember, Islam prohibited masturbation, and any thing Islam prohibited it, is not good for our body.
I am finally saying, please quite from it before its late to cry. Thanks…
so logically speaking what is the difference in stroking your penis and ejaculating semen or getting it stroked by your wife or her vagina,the penis dont know the difference yet one claims to make you blind and the other is good for you …….think about it
peace
plz i practice mastubation often and often,what could be the solution brothers
There is doubt on the authenticity of the hadith on masturbation. And the word ‘masturbation’ is not directly said.
All the prohibitions on this are imposed with indirect interpretation of ayahs and sayings.
If you are not married, are you willing to go out with an erected ….
Which is better, going to forbidden girls or controlling the excited thing in bathroom?
human demands?..islam has covered all the needs ov man….when u re old enough to get married,u advised to do so…..but ,wat happens after u hv approached puberty?..when u dnt hv full control of yourself…when u hv some long years to get married ahead ov u..am certainly sure islam has da answer to dat…we just havent looked hard…..sallamu allaikum
i find it difficult to stop it ever since have started
Salaam -interesting debate going on about MASTUBATION within the youth .There are differences of opinions about it within islamic community.
In the same way there are diffrences of opinion of it within the marriage confines as well.
The bottom line is as far as the youth is concerned -its a question of the lesser evil principle.
WE must understand where this indulgence stems from in order to answer it .
Our body is so designed by ALLAH (Subhanallahu Ta Alaa) that during pre-adolescence a lot of bodily changes are taking place.One such change involve the HORMONES , especially the secondary sex hormones where changes such as physical body from boyhood to adulthood is taking place -hair starts growing under our armpits and genital areas,voice changes ,muscular physique for boys etc -for girls too are the same changes.
These hormone are produced at an alarming rate and before young boy realises this, his developements realy surpasses his expectations.
We humans have been created with emotions and desires -these are normal human experiences and one such emotion is the sexual desires.This happens more or less during the pre-adolescent peroid ,due to hormone production-boys start now to get erections during the night ,sometimes accompanied by wet dreams and this may trigger off the indulgence of MASTUBATION which is a normal response.This is the moment we must teach our kids ,even before this about the bodily changes that are taking place and what one can expect to happen, coupled with the ISLAMIC EDUCATION .Islamic education that teaches the young boy and girl what is haraam and what is halal .They should be told about the changes thats taking place and when one require a ghusul and what one should do when he gets wet dream or mastubates etc that all these things require ghusil .That one cannot go near salah if one is in an impure state.
Now the views expressed concerning mastubation in youth is this that its a normal human behavior -all men have experience it sometimes in their life but the problem comes when this behavior continue in ur life so much so that one does not think of getting married and going onto a higher form of sexual experience with ones wife.Mastubation in the early part of ones life does leave a measure of guilt -whether it is a sin -is it permissible -will we be punished for doing it etc etc.But as one get older this habit should get less and less and eventually develope greater controll over his or her sexual emotions and become now a fully matured adult who is now well in controll of his or her emotions.The conrol over these emotions are practised during the times of FASTING ,during the times of PRAYER(SALAH) fASTING and Prayer teaches one selfcontrol and discipline to a higher stage of developement in ones life .and the expression of love and sex is one of such higher form of developement in ones life to the stage of marriageable age .We all longed for this higher form of life between a husband and his wife.
So yes the problem is when mastubation is to be the only source of ones sexual pleasures.and one become addictive to it -there is thus an absence of control measures.This becomes a problem in itself.
Now young boys and young adults find themselves in societies where the sexual arousal is high ,here the argument is this that the young boy or adult would mastubate to keep them away from engaging sex outside of marriage -here it means that having sex outside of marriage is HARAAM .Mastubation is regarded as something that all boys and men experience and should be discontinued as a one gets matured .As stated young men whould engage in this to keep them away from greater sexual indulgence outside of marriage -and this become the lesser evil of the two .
On the subject a lot needs to be said especially by our learned scholars and ulemah -Allah knows best.
salam.
brothers and sisters if u wanna get rid of this habit. Firstly when ever u started thinking of masturbation just play the recitation of the quran it can be from ur laptop or from a radio cassette, or disc. Or if u can even go n perform ablution then open the quran and read. Wallahi inshallah the shaytan will leave u alone.
i am muhammad from africa[kenya] and ithank you all for comments and i will make sure i stop this bad habit may allah help me. thank you.
I’m a 22 years old virgin. I’ve been finding it so hard to stop this sinful habit of masturbating. I’ve been trying to avoid it in my life but the maximum is a month or two, not more. I know it’s a hard struggle, and sometimes a person is strong enough to say no but other times a person is just weak until one day after many prayers and “yaqin” one is strong enough to free his soul from committing such sin.
I know a person should not let bad thoughts come on their way but really it takes a struggle, sometimes it’s manageable and other times it’s just so hard. The only way I see is to pray a lot and say “althikr” as much as possible for god to make me go stronger in life and be able to avoid doing the wrong things.
I’m now engaged alhamdulellah. I read that marriage is one solution of stopping oneself from this habit. But is this a halal solution? meaning, is it okay that I’m having high hopes that marriage would be the solution of making me stop doing such a sin?
Because I want to get rid of this habit by myself and before marriage of course. But i’m sometimes afraid that i wont manage this plan before marriage. My father always told me “If you make mistakes or sins in life, god won’t give you the chance to enjoy it when it becomes Halal”. So i always have this fear of not enjoying my married life later inshaallah.
Sakaam Sister Muslimah,
Marriage is the solution to this problem for both males and females.You will begin to notice during marriage that this habit of mastubation will disappear almost immediately .Why ? because the need to mastubate will be replaced by having a loving sexual relationship with your husband.The more sex you have with your husband ,the need to mastubate will no longer be with you.
Remember Allah says in Quran -“your wives are the tilth for you , you go to your tilling ground whenever you wish”
So whenever you feel the urge to mastubate ,rather invite your husband to a halaal means of satisfying yourself or yourselves and you can do it as many times as you want it.
But if this habit persist in your married despite the fact that you do have a lot of sex with your husband -then i suggest you see a doctor -it could be a physical or pschycological manifestation.(ALLAH KNOWS BEST)
salam, im 42 years of age and married for over 16 years, My problem is i masturbate at least once a week although i have sex with my wife about every 10 days.I have many times tried to stop this act but i still do it but feel guilty after i do it. I have repented many times and have done my umra twice asking Allah almighty to forgive my sins but i still masturbate until now. I feel i have very weak will power to stop this act although i pray 5 times a day, fast during ramadhan, pay zakat or alms…Sometimes i dont know when i will stop doing it. Getting married does not mean u can have sex anytime u want with ur wife as u know how women are in these times..not like in the prophets time where women are so obedient and understanding.Nowadays wives are very stingy with their vaginas and its not like we make them pregnant every year! I have 2 children and they are teens already..as i said not only women are stingy with their money but their pussy as well..thats why i still masturbate to satisfy and relief myself from this stress. When i just got married, sex was not a problem for the first 2 years. I can even ask my wife to have oral sex, do a handjob anytime i need it etc. After the first child came, every thing changed and sex was further and further away.now, i cant even hold her breasts anymore becos she feels uncomfortable. I dont have oral sex anymore,no handjobs now…so now u all see why i m masturbating..may allah show me the way to HIS heaven although i have mush sins.wasalam
you must divorce your wife. If you masturbate while having a wife, then you are not a ‘man’. Your wife knows this well enough. She may be involved with someone else, which you must investigate.
jimmy you are a nut case the family unit is regarded very highly in islam
divorce her because she dont give you a handjob ?stop being a prat
Its so typical for muslim men to blame the women. mate…masturbation is your habit. You need to speak to your wife and express your concerns. don’t blame her for your wrong doing! By the way…a man who writes in so much detail what he does with his wife is a bit disturbing. You know why you can’t stop… becuase you have the “victim” and your wife “the one causing you to sin”. Your victim mentality will never let you stop. Be a man, own up to your mistakes and admit your fault and endevour to STOP.
assalam alikum sir i want to advise you that please think about the method of your intercourse. try to change it and make it attractive and more pleasurable so that she could have a tasty and addictive sex with you my brother. and try to find what is reason that she dont want sex with you? inshAllah this will be solution to your problem
assssalaamoalikum, to all my brothers and sisters in islam.
its been a fun ride going through all the interesting facts people have here. In most simple words ill say that ” MASTURBATING IS HARAAM”. No muslim can deny this fact. its been stated in crystal form in Quran and Had-its. The only problem why people cant accept this clear fact is that because of different scholar who are contradicting the whole case. No body has or never will change quran. so i ask u guys why are we arguing when its clearly stated in quran. the only help i can share is that think about paradise which allah has to offer. if u dont know what paradise looks like then go on youtube abd search for it. i challenge u if u know whats waiting for u then this small thing won’t be that hard to quit. as a bonus think about ur mom and if u love them the most.
jazakallah khair
Assalamu alikum 2 all
i hav a request 2 all that plz plz plz give me any solution to left masturbating.
JAZAKALLH
Asalam O Alykum brother i waste my self alot with this i feel guilty and i fee angry plzz some 1 tell me how can i stop this and how can i recover my self please do reply me ….. ALLAH HAFIZ
best way is to REDUCE
you doing everyday then do every 3 days then once a week etc
dont worry about it you are not killing anyone etc get on with your life
good luck bro
salam alaikum,i am a 36 year old woman and i have been married for 19 years,i pray 5times daily and pray nafilahs i fast mondays and thurdays i go for umrah every ramadan and i often go for hajj i pay zakkat and i always engage myself in zikr my problem is that for the past 2 years now i started masturbating due to the reason that i sincerely dont have any satisfaction with intercourse only with my outer part and since i realised that i explained to my husband time without numbers what satisfies me but he tries to but without satisfying me and anytime we meet it drives my urge and i resort to masturbating and even when i confessed to him my acts he said that since i can satisfy myself i should continue and he is always wanting to sleep with me which turns me on but without satisfaction,i have always told him since we are not compatible he should divorce me but he always says since i dont have any feelings inside me that it is not his problem and cries when i say am leaving that he loves me so much and he wants us to be together because of the children. i want to stop this act but anytime he comes to me is when the desire starts. I have always been asking Allah(swt)for forgiveness and to guide me to the straight part. please i need your advice and prayers for guidance,for the sake of Allah. sister in desperate need of help and prayers.
asslam alikum
i read your post on ibnalhyderabadee.now i want to give you the solution. sister please check the hadiths on intercourse and there is very correctly and clearly explained that one should satisfy his/her spouse. otherwise Allah will curse on him/her who don’t satisfy his/her spouse. and you can use any hadith software for this purpose. and then warn your husband May Allah show him the straight path ameen
SALAAMS SISTER AMINA -you are not alone with kind of problem ,there are many sisters with the same situation .ITs not ur fault and its not the fault of ur beloved husband.No one is expected to have the perfect sex all the time and you and ur husband dont have to suffer like this .My advice is for both of you to go and seek help through a qualified respectable SEX THERAPIST -there is help available, so go and get that help and u and ur husband will continue to enjoy a wonderful loving sexual relationship.INsha-Allah Amin.
hi
if a person wish to masturbate and is married then there is simple solution for him or her.
You can ask your partner to do this for you. And escape sinful life.
if giving masturbation to your spouse(partner) is not forbidden(haram).
Assalamualaikum ,
Prophet (S.A.S) said (if im not mistaken) : the greatest Jihad is Fighting the evil within….
so Keep fighting the Evil within everytime ….
so your partner can rub your dick and its ok but you cant as its a sin?
like saying dont eat the food with your hands as its haraam but if someone feeds you its ok.
where is your LOGIC?Islam is a logical /reasonable religion
good topic wealth of infomation
I just have a very simple question, ifmasturbation is sinful and not allowed, how did the men during prophet era, even in the older times, know that sex is joyfulandthey would marrywives andhave sex and get pleasure?
HOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW????????
Silly imams of our times; I don’t want to seem making masturbnationlawful; not at all
Go teach people to quit smoking,this is the sin, not masturbating.
you are explaining the ayah wrongly; how can my own body be considered unlawful to me?
If so, then I am not supposed to look at myself at all…
It is natural to get aroused,that is why we get married, right?
and how do we know the reason why we want to get married?
it is just normal and quran never forbade it neither the prophet
Salam.
In order to stop masturbating, i need to get married, but i’m still a student, and i dont have a job yet. This bad habit we’re in is a test. Sometimes when i restrain myself, and then suddenly finding myself doing it again i start to wonder my sincerity. I want to be a good muslim and marry a good muslim girl.
eventhough some might think it’s not a sin, there is the guilt.
(just sending few words glad i found this i was not alone phew.. get a little encouraged)
marrying just for sex is kinda wrong ,,,,,,what happens if you both are nt compatable? get a divorce?something Allah does nt like?
If a woman rubs her private part against a surface without actually penetrating it in any way, is that considered haram?
Salam to u all out dir.
Aysha,since u r stimulating ur external organ, u r mastubating wc to some is a sin while to odas its nt.Allah knows best.@ all,dis topic might b interesting,funny or embarrasing to some bt d fact still remains dt its a serious issue dt nids to b looked into.a current chart shows dt abt 95% male & 86% female in d world over indulge in dis act.for dos who consider it gud,let ask ourselve if dis is a normal trend.to me dir is smtin much more powerful at work here.think abt it.
Ma-salam
no where it is written as haram. but still it is called as masturbation if you reach orgasm dear. . . ..
i am male and masturbating from approx5 yrs what are the outcomes after mariage..
and how i recover my wealth and the symptoms that appeared on sex area….that u know better, from ur experience from people querries…
awaiting for ur reply…..
no outcomes dont listen to the bullshit about it here otherwise most of the world would be blind and demented
follow the islamic principle everytihng in moderation
As salam alikum
There seems to be varied opinion abt “masturbation”.i have been a convert to this beautiful religion and nay!i masturbate rarely!frequency varies…..when i was a non-muslim i used to feel all right abt it bt nw i feel regret to b honest nw dat i am a muslim…..may allah protect us frm all wrong things and who knows best but allah
Ameeen
@Miura -you are right -Islam is a Logical Religion but Islamic logic is based on Truth not facts.Just to Illustrate my point ,one can make a statement like :ALL MEN ARE DRUNKARDS .SAEED IS A MAN ,THEREFORE SAEED IS A DRUNKARD .This is logical but it is not Truthfull .Mastubation is permissible between a husband and wife -its part of normal sexual fore-play that is needed to enjoy the wonderful gift that ALLAH has given man.n
I’m sixteen and you’re basically telling me to get married or fast until I get married- sound realistic to you.
sad
Ahusubilahi minashyton rojem bismilah raman roheem.., masturbation is forbiden in islam, any prove dat it helps sm1 to avoid been engage in fornication or adultary is baseless. The best way to avoid masturbation is to abstain from watching any porn videos, naked pics and themes. Allah knw best
dont ever even masturbate once, ull want to do it again and and again, may Allah have mercy upon those who do, i use 2 masturbate, then i slowly stopped with the help of Allah and dedication, may HE forgive me, HE is indeed the most mercifull, when i had the urge 2 do it, i would think about the bad things that would happen, such as aids,*female masturbators end up losening their um… part, if they masturbate, so they are less enjoyable by their husbands cause they r no longer” tight”*excuse the nastyness
how do you get AIDS if you masturbate? Please explain thanks as Im curious about your information
* excuse the discustingness, there is only a low chance of getting aids by masturbating, but if you were to look at a list of all possible causes of aids,masturbation is there,/ aids is caused when the germ gets into our organs, even through our sexual organs, so if one was to ever get the germ upon their had and then masturbate the germ could enter with ease through their external urethral orifice or their va****
still dont understand if you are alone doing it how do you get the AIDS on your hand? unless you are with someone with AIDS then its impossible….
correct me if im wrong
ops, excuse my horrible spelling and gramar, i meant if the germ gets on ur hand,
any ways these effects rarely ever happen, so, but they r there, u r right these facts r useless, just follow in Allah and dont masturbate.
um aids is germ that is usauly carried in sexual organs, cause it somehow started from a person’s sexual organ, but remember its a germ, germs can move, basically the hiv germ can move out of an organ, or even through our blood, if someone withe hiv got a cut and bleed on the floor, someone cleaned the blood up, didnt wash his hands, & later masturbated, the germ could enter the womans v*****, and a man’s external urethral orifice
actually AIDS is a virus not germ and how many people do you know clean the blood of an aids person who have cut themselves and then masturbate with blood on their hands ?
got to be pretty crazy to do that!!!!!
true,
* continued post* i also use to think about heaven, to be rewarded that, and 2 do that i had 2 aviod masturbating, also in heaven ur rewarded 72 of the most beautifull women u can imagine, untouched virgins, dnt know the case 4 girls, so, * exuse the lustful logic, would u rather sit there alone and please ur self with ur hand, which is not the best pleasure u can get, taking health risks, and take a chance at going 2 hell, or would you have 72 virgins?
* continued post/ all opinons i gathered i conclude masturbation haraam or not, u should do it, may ALLAH forgive those who masturbated even once or continue 2, and also people who think that they masturbate and then ask for forgiveness and repent it all be ok, no, in order 2 get HIS forgiveness u must have honest dedication, and not take it 4 granted, and as long as that is with in ones heart when one tries tries 2 quite masturbation but does again he is forgiven when ask 4 repentance, *continued-
-*continued/ * opps, in my last post i said haraam or not, u should do it, i meant shouldnt, / CONTINUED/so the preson will be forgiven unless he or she presists breaking repentance in ignorance, *no care, no regret, on purpose, in that case the person may not be forgiven, or even that may be counted as a sin to break repentance with ignorance of what is haraam and with the knowlegde that its haraam and ignoraning that fact,may ALLAH have mercy 4 those who sin, HE is the most mercifull.*continued-
-continued/ there is a difference between breaking repantance in ignorance and then doing it in forgivable case, igronace would would be- a boy is alone and bored, he is watching tv, sees a arousing women, and then decides 2 masturbate and think , its ok ill repent later is ignorace. then doing cause ur suffering, no means of mariage, and afraid he or she will end up commiting forification,then thats forgivable by honest repentance,*sin is a sin whenever done, but can be forgiven by ALLAH, most mercifull
after 2 month research, i think masturbation is haraam,BUT!, it can be done in cases, it disliked though,it can b done in certain cases-ex.-u been thinking bout girls 4 like 3 days,24/7,u cnt focus on daily life or worship 2 god from the heart,u being tearded apart, 2 young 2 marry,then u can do as long as u dnt get addicted,dnt do it normaly, dnt make it a habit, like only do it 1 a week, only if u like realy need 2, otherwise aviod it the best u can,ask me any questions of how i concluded 2 this. ^_^
i also have the same opinion bro……thanks for confirming..me….i have a great fight between and my desire for it…alhumdulillah i got rid from it..almost……..
u are doing a great job.jazaka lahu kaheran
yeah masterbration is a gr8 fact…. after doing it we ve not a good mind ..& it is harmful 2 health .Islam also rejected it bt sometimes we promise tht we wouldn’t do tht ever bt then we do tht when the sexual feelings came we ve no control .. how could we realef from this kind of nasty work ..Allah save us
The masturbation debate is over. Self-proclaimed “Scholar of Islam” and “Scholar of Aqeeedah and Sunnah” Mr. Yasir Kazi has proclaimed in his eternalgarment.com webinar series that there is nothing sinful or wrong with masturbation.
Fine way of describing, and pleasant paragraph to get data
regarding my presentation subject, which i am going to convey in university.
seriously I have found no solution from all what and where I have read….after masturbation I feel so sick of myself…I can control it for two weeks max.then the thought repeatedly comes in my mind over and over again.if that wasn’t less to add to it any female friend or colleague or be it any female of aa decent composure starts looking like a sexual object that I just feel like exploring.all this if I do not masturbate for two weeks plus.after the act of masturbation I see the same female in a different light looks more of a person to me than an object.truly speaking I seek refuge from these activities in the name of Allah.May he heal this problem of mines through some miracle.
But I would like to say that the scholars that we have been looking for answers have failed me tremendously.they do not know shit regaring this issue maybe they didn’t jack it there youth but they fail to realize that this problem is not a small one it needs to be tackled as masturbation leads to lower confidence and overall body strength which leads to mental blocks.but whenever I seek fro solutions regarding these issues quotations from all holy books are presented like a sweet dish but it cannot be devoured because we don’t need that we need explanations.screw all these damn people who give quotations and expect us to understand what it really means.sometimez I wonder is they do not have any darn common sense or just the ballz to discuss this issue.all these darned scholars or people who offer solutions for so any of the prpactical issues in life concerning marriage,property,land,job etc. fails to tackle this issue cauz they are dumb.they can tell us benefits of fasting and praying fine I believe that I something very well explained and known by people but hidden isuues such as this leave them dumbstruck cauz they never jacked it
the scholars will not explain by using FACT other wise according to them most men would be blind and bald by now .
just try your best bro and Allah is most merciful of those that show mercy.
brother it is neither prohibited nor allowed..islam is silent on this issue….i also have searched on this issue a lot of times and i have seen that some scholars that it is haram and some say it is makrooh.which means there is ikhtilaaf in this issue..so brother i have also problem like that of you…but it exist for 2 or three or more days.
there is a simple technique i have developed that whenever there is a desire or urge to masturbate just lie down on your belly and begin push ups, jumping, punching in the air, kicking in the air, this is will help you.
in shaa Allah..
you can contact me for further discussions, anonymous.boy2012@yahoo.com
assalam aleikum
im a 15 year old guy who prays 5 times a day nd read the quran……i started masterbating wen.i as 13 without even know i never knew it was a sin until i was like 14 but i couldnt stop myself but it reduced so i still masterbate once a month minimum or twice a month maximum cause im really desperate nd wen i achieve my orgasm i feel really guilty nd do ghusl……second thing is after i pray fajr prayer i go to sleep so wen im a bout to sleep.in my bd the jinn comes nd holds my hands nd legs nd pulls up nd down my ass in which by the jinn anals me nd i feel like im floatind nd another jinn uses my penis to insert it in itself nd i get really intensed orgasms till i ejaculate this happens like 5 times a week nd sometimes only one jinn comes on top of me nd i think it blowjobs me of masterbates me …….nd i ejaculate i just cant stop it from happening cuz all my hands nd legs r held by the jinn nd now it happens olmost evryday in ramadhan after the fajr prayer….so wat shud i do
Salamu Alaikun brother…
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ALLAAHO LAA ELAAHA ILLAA HOWA, AL-HAYYUL QAYYOOMO, LAA TAAKHOZOHU SENATUWN WALAA NAWMUN,
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Wa aleikum salaam Thank u may Allah guide u nd all other muslims pliz pray for me to be a good mu meen,im not forcing u to do dua for me but pliz pray for me …thank u very much
all who say we do it in privacy meaning alone when no-one can see just remember allah (swt) can see what you do
I am highly confused brothers and sisters. I am in them month of Ramadan and I have thoughts of masturbating. What do I do? Do I release or continue abstaining?
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
At the very least, abstain from doing it while fasting. Can’t you manage that?
Yes indeed, I am just concerned about when I break my fast after Tarawah prayer.
Break it after maghrib
Walkum al salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
masturabtion is good or bad in islam???only yes or no..
As salam brothers,
I just want to share something here,
I’m not going to pass fatwa here,
but Masturbation DESTROYS our soul.
I’ve been struggling with this evil habit for 8 years, I am now 26 years old. The longest that I managed to restrain myself was 2 months, and I kept falling to this habit. The feeling that I had every time I fell into this evil habit is horrible. I loathed myself.
I’ve read some comments above expressing the same feeling as mine,
I’ve witnessed many times of my changing behavior because of this sinful act.
Spiritually
1. We can’t focus in our salah
2. We can’t bring ourselves to lower our gaze
3. We started to see women on the streets differently. We lose our respect for women as human being.
4. We will lose our patience. (raising our voice when we talk to our siblings or parents and such)
5. We will feel irritated/annoyed easily.
6. Our iman is decreasing rapidly.
Scientifically
1. We will lose our muscle.
2. We will lose our appetite.
3. We will be weak physically.
4. Fuzzy vision
5. Fatigue.
and etc…
I personally had been cutting myself off from people I know for at least a week to cool down my guilt and regain my conscience by doing sports, listening to lectures and strengthen my salah because of the hypocrisy sign that runs around in my mind.
( I started to keep my beard since 23 so people think I’m a good muslim, because of my beard but I think otherwise, this affects my self esteem badly).
I’ve listened to one of Br. Nouman Ali Khan’s lecture. about shamelessness.
below is just one of few
Shamelessness is the bare minimum for muslims. In other words, Allah’s expectation on us is higher than that. Our standard as muslims is much more higher than this.
By the way these are some of the suggestions that Br. Nouman Ali Khan gives to prevent us from this act.
1. Do not be alone (this happens to many I believe, it happened to me) Try to get out of your house if you are alone. A few times I thought I could handle it because my salah been consistent, but I was dead wrong.
2. Do not place your laptop in your room.
3. Get busy.
4.Never give up. Ask Allah for strength to fight our nafs.
(To Allah we belong and to Him is our return, we have nowhere to go, who will forgive us if not Allah?)
I write this down as a reminder to myself, my brothers and sisters. I am here for obvious reason. But we shouldn’t give up.
I dream of marrying a practicing muslimah and raising pious children. I dream of them the muslim youth to be the pure hearted leaders for the ummah in the future.
I hope we, who struggle and suffer from this will stop for good, I hope we will strive to be better muslims no matter how many times we fall.
“Ya muslims, if you fall 7 times, get up 8 times!”. Mufti Menk.
Salam brother. Where is the evidence? U must substantiate ur assertions with proof. Btw not everyone watches porn while masturbating. And not everyone experiences these effects. U can see frm the comments on this forum. So perhaps u exaggerate the matter. Be calm and think. The Quran and Hadith have never explicitly stated masturbation as haram. If it destroyed our soul, Allah and His prophet(saw) would have clearly told us.
yes it is bad
we all know doing things in alone is bad but than also we do
Ok so if I urinate in the bathroom I have done a bad deed. Cuz I was alone. If I do homework in my room I have sinned. Cuz I was alone. Seriously u make me laugh.
Iam a daily traveller from india and during the month of ramadan ive been accidently seeing some of girls thats makes horny and im hornified with that did that makes my fasting breaks ??
am a Muslim female girl I don’t masturbate but anytime am horny I take my breast pics sorry to say that and I delete it immediately is it a sin to do that in islam
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